Post # 1
So I have a huge family. Huge. The man’s family is not nearly as big. Most of the rehearsal dinners I have been to have been extended family with aunts, uncles and cousins. If I did that, the rehearsal dinner would be enormous. Is it acceptable to do a rehearsal dinner with just the bridal party and immediate family (brothers/sisters/grandparents) and then do an open house type event to help greet the family coming from out of town? I just think a huge rehearsal dinner turns into almost a second wedding and the price tag can get enormous. The man’s parents are covering the cost and I don’t want to drown them in dinner for 100 people. Any ideas on how to work this all out would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
that’s pretty much what we are doing. We have a very large family and the rehearsal dinner would be pretty much.. the reception.lol So the rehearal dinner will just be wedding party, parents and grandparents. Then we’re going to have a pre wedding celebration for out of town guests at a local bar that has a private area. We plan on doing karaoke at it too! I’m excited
Post # 4
We’re having a mini-party! We’re going to do the dinner with just the wedding party and then my fiancés uncle’s band is getting back together for a one-night-only event just for us and our closests friends. I’m really excited… and the best part is my fiance has NO clue. We’re going to surprise him with a ‘ticket’ for christmas.
Post # 5
@luckyyou – That’s awesome! I’m so horrible at keeping surprises a secret. I envy your self control.
I’m thinking we might do the open house type event at Hofbrauhaus which is a big beer hall which would be rowdy and a lot of fun. Giant steins of beer are always well appreciated in a large German family.
Post # 6
Rehearsal dinners aren’t the big production/formal event in Aust as they appear to be in the US, so it’s probably not the same for us. But we are just having bridal party and their partners, our parents and the people they are staying with (it’s a DW), grandparents and a couple of random people we couldn’t leave out (like my cousin who is playing the music for us). FMIL wanted me to invite others in her family but I was very firm in not making it a second wedding reception. People who are in the vicinity are welcome to come and say hello and have a drink, but I’m not going to feed them all 2 nights in a row 🙂
Post # 7
We went back and forth on this. In my family, its customary to have extended family and out of town guests at the rehearsal dinner – basically everyone! We really didn’t want to do that, and turns out everyone is okay with it. I think it will be a nice, lowkey time with those we love.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Ugh, this is confusing for me too. If it were up to FI and myself, we’d just have the bridal party, parents, and grandparents. HOWEVER, his aunts/uncles and their families will be traveling in with his grandfather (same on the other side, actually) and will be super offended if the grandparents are invited and they aren’t. And they’d start major drama. And MY aunts/uncles would be offended if his were invited and mine weren’t. So as of now I’m thinking it may just have to be bridal party and parents…but then I feel bad for leaving out grandparents! Ugh.