Post # 1
Dear ladies – this should probably be in the RINGS section but I feel it’s an emotional issue as well because it makes me emotional!
FI and I have been together for 7years. We met in college. My big church wedding is 3 weeks away. We have been engaged for 7 years and actually even eloped and had a civil ceremony way back when we were both in law school and struggling.
Flashforward to now, we have both saved for a beautiful church wedding that’s coming up. We have pretty much paid for everthing because our hard work has paid and we are financially stable. The rings we used 7 years ago were small and cheap – a hundred dollars each at least. They are old and tarnished. They might have been pretty then, but obviously not now. Especially since we are having a big church wedding.
I have hinted to FI that we need new rings. Whenever we are browsing the internet or at a store, I will drag him to the jewelery section and look at necklaces … and rings. He just doesn’t get it. He keeps saying “.. baby, we are fine, we have rings already …”. I feel like bashing his head, because we REALLY don’t have rings – just old tarnished metal! I guess stuff like that don’t mean a lot to men. We have spent a fortune to plan the wedding, but the rings are not in the budget.
HOW CAN I GET MY NEW RING without hurting his feelings? Don’t get me wrong, I love FI very much, we have weathered a lot of storms together and have come a long way. He is the best thing that ever happened to me .. I just don’t want to hurt his feelings because he is the very sensitive type. I have been thinking of buying myself a ring … heck, I can afford it!
Help me out ladies! Thanks for reading.
Post # 3
Like you said, buy it for yourself! Or maybe you could phrase it as an anniversary/wedding present from him to you.
Post # 4
Ummm….not quite sure how I would broach the subject.
I see that you’ve been hinting but you may want to wait it out for a few weeks until after wedding. He may have caught onto your hints and plans on giving you something new as a surprise.
If after the wedding he hasn’t given you anything new, I would sit him down and ask him for a new one as opposed to just hinting.
Post # 5
Are you certain he’s not planning to surprise you with a new ring at your wedding? DH has trouble surprising me and I always work myself up over things that I really should just let play out. Just a thought!
Post # 6
I agree! Just take the lead on this one. You can even buy him one too :). There’s nothing wrong with buying something when you can comfortably afford it.
Post # 7
I would say be up front about it. My FI and I have already talked about upgrading and said that I could if I wanted to at a much later date of course.
Post # 9
Buy it yourself, or just tell him you’d love to have a new ring now that you can afford one.
Post # 10
The title of this posted sounded HORRIBLE but I’m glad I read on because you explained yourself so well! hehe
Post # 11
Get a blingy wedding band!
Post # 12
Big church wedding, big ceremony, new chapter in life, new ring! Makes sense to me. =)
Post # 13
Can you get them re-polished for now?
Post # 14
Are you guys not getting wedding rings? Is he just going to have you wear your e-ring and leave it at that?
If so…tell him how you really want to get wedding rings…not just an e-ring. Then maybe instead of a standard band…you can get more of an “e ring” looking ring 🙂
Post # 15
I would approach him about it! You guys have been together for quite some time now, and a new ring is deserved! haha. Go for it
Post # 16
@samora:hi there. my hubby and i are renweing our wedding vows in oct. to celebrate 20 years of marriage,. we really had a knock out drag out arguments about me wanting a new ring. he thought the one i wanted was to expensive (5,000). i had to remind him that he gets new cars when he wants them and not when he NEEDS them. I got my beautiful eternity band and when he saw how much it appraised for (much much more than he paid for it) he was actually excited. sometimes you just gotta be honest.