Post # 1
So FI and I really want to do the garter toss BUT do not then want to do the whole creepy thing where the guy who catches it puts it on the woman who caught the bouquet. Do you think we can do that or will the people just expect it and do it anyways? Any ideas here to make this happen? Thanks!!!
Post # 3
I have never even heard of that tradition so I certainly wouldn’t expect it. Any garter toss I’ve seen just involves the garter coming off the bride and being tossed and then the bride and groom usually take a photo with the guy who caught the garter and the girl who caught the bouquet.
Post # 4
@nawella: Maybe you can give it to the longest married couple attending… no tossing or anything literally just hand it to them and maybe let them have a slow dance or something?
Post # 5
@MademoiselleL: that makes me feel better! Although that’s how my parents did it at their wedding… The video is hilarious but I don’t want to make my friends feel awkward. Well I’ll hope that no one expects it then! Maybe I’ll clarify with my parents beforehan. Because I could totally see dad trying to get them to do it.
Post # 6
Why do you want to do it if you don’t want to…do it? It’s already risque since your husband is supposed to pull it off with his teeth or some such nonsense. Why not just not do it? We didn’t, and we’re still just as married as the next couple.
Post # 7
I had never seen the “put the garter on the girl who got the bouquet” until this past weekend (although I’d heard about it here).
In my family, they just ask the two winners to dance together or, sometimes, we just move on with the party. I find the garter-putting really, really off-putting.
Post # 8
I’ve only seen this happen one time and it will only happen if your MC says to do it so i wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 9
@nawella: I had never heard of the part of the tradition. My fi and i will be doing the garter toss w/o that part of it. I don’t see the problem with not doing it. Just don’t have the DJ announce that he needs to put it on her leg.
Post # 10
@nawella: I’ve never heard of it. We didn’t want to do a garter auction, which was typical in my area, so we did a garter dance off and gave it to whoever the crowd cheered for. However, I said if my dad even got out there to dance that he would automatically get it. My didn’t even care about the garter. He just went out there to dance. It was awesome. Maybe you could do an alternative like that?
Post # 11
I saw one on pinterest where they put the garter on a football and tossed that. You don’t need to have it come off your leg or put it on anybody either.
Post # 12
Every wedding i’ve been to, the unfortunate ones that catch the bouquet & garter need to uncomfortably sit through putting on a garter on a stranger (or another family member lol). Last wedding first cousin one had to endure putting a garter on first cousin two, which ended in pure comic relief for everyone watching. It was SO weird bahaha!
The other wedding I went to, the brides sister who’s 20 years old caught the garter. It was the guys turn and a 50-something man (who dates much younger women) ran up to catch the garter. You should have seen the face he was given by the girls dad. If looks could kill.
Post # 13
I’ve been to one wedding where one person insisted that the garter had to be put on the bouquet girl’s leg and no one else had heard of it, but the one person was insistent enough (and had the microphone I think) so it was done.
I’m going to make sure that whoever has the microphone knows we’re not doing that at my wedding…. I don’t want to put one of my friends through that!
Post # 14
Oh, and pulling the garter off by the teeth and/or having his head under my dress isn’t happening either! Reaching up with his hand is just fine!
Post # 15
Well… to answer all your questions/ideas here… FI does want to do the football thing! We want to get a Patriots garter (doubles as my something blue!) and then he’ll toss it on a football. He played football in high school, and it will be fun! Really I just know our families will enjoy the whole thing, and we think it’s fun, except for the part we don’t want to do, but it sounds like most people don’t expect the creepy part, so it’ll be fine as long as the DJ doesn’t tell them to do it. And actually, I really love the idea of the winners dancing together! That’s a lot less risque.
Post # 16
@nawella: Ugh. The dreaded garter. It’s totally awkward. Some ides (which may or may not have already been mentioned)
1) Girl puts garter on guys’ leg/arm (cue crowds’ rawring laughter)
2) Bouquet breaks into pieces (3+) and the ladie’s still put it on the guy
3) Bouquet breaks into tons of petals so nobody catches it; start playing “single ladies” and invite the single men back onto the dance floor.