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    hisswallow    September 18, 2014   Ontario, Canada

    FH and I are planning on eloping - mainly because we have to make a choice between a wedding and a honeymoon. We would like to have our family present but cannot afford to do the honeymoon AND a reception so we are going to get married quietly in a picturesque location. We would like to send out invitations for our ceremony but I am not sure how to word it to say that there will not be a reception of any kind following. How do I do this? Is better to just not bother inviting anyone at all? I guess that I kind of want to do something a little nice to invite people hence the invitations.

    Clear as mud? lol

     
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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    Can you say something like "you are invited to the wedding ceremony of ..."

     
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    hisswallow    September 18, 2014   Ontario, Canada

    Yes I think so... would it be terrible to say that there isn't anything following the ceremony? Maybe its just not done that way? I dunno.

     
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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    Word of mouth is probably your best bet there.  You don't even want to go out to eat or something?

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    I think people will expect SOMETHING. How many people are you thinking of inviting to the ceremony? If I were you I would do a small ceremony, maybe 50 people or so, and then have a "celebration" at someone's house directly after. Nothing formal, have your family make food or something. You can probably even pay for their groceries and still come in at under $500. I just thinking you should have a little SOMETHING even if it is akin to a birthday party. 

     
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    sunshinebride    July 30, 2010   California

    how many people are you wanting to be there?  Maybe you could just persuade them to come on vacation with you, and tell your folks that you really want them to come because you were planning on getting married while on vacation....

     
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    Bella Luna    September 5, 2010   Ohio

    You may consider doing an 'after party' for those invited to the ceremony. That's what we're doing and I am sure it'll be fantastic. We're just having a nice dinner afterward but you could also do something at someone's house afterward that would be lovely too.

    Bella

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    People will expect something after a ceremony, they just will, even if you tell them nothing is going to happen. Read Mrs. Mary Jane's posts... We had an elopement with four guests and we took them out to dinner afterwards. Our families still expect us to have a reception for them. Even though we didn't invite them to the wedding. Even though they have been mean and rude about our wedding. They still expect a reception. 

     

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