Post # 1
So tonight was my first night long distance. I feel bad calling it that, as my FI only lives about an hour and a half away. We are both starting grad school tomorrow and I can’t even sleep because I miss him so much. I will get to see him most weekends, but even phone calls will be scarce because his research project is really demanding.
The thing is, I have never lived alone. I moved out of my parents house 6 years ago into the dorms. My FI and I hit it off right away, and he was just down the hall. We moved in together after that first year and have lived together for the last 5 years. I haven’t spent more than a few days apart from him in 6 years. Now I feel so lonely. I know that I will see him soon, but I can’t even sleep without his loud, window rattling snores.
Plus, I’m a bit envious because he stayed in our undergrad town, while I moved. He has friends and family there, and I’m lonely and sad, and I’ve been sick all day, I think cause I am psyching myself out
Will it get better? I’m tired of feeling like I’m going to cry/throw up, and I’m only a few hours in.
Post # 3
Yep, I promise it will get better. Slowly sure, and tomorrow night probably won’t feel easier than tonight, but eventually you will sleep without a problems.
Generally, people adapt and manage. It sucks and it hurts, but I’m sure this isn’t a situation that you entered into without thought, and hopefully with some kind of end date in mind.
Do all the things thatheight help you sleep; tea, hot bath etc. No magic fix unfortunately, but I’m sure you’re a strong and independent woman who will work it out!!
Post # 4
Yes, it definitely gets better! The first week is always the worst. You’ll start getting used to sleeping alone and things will be much better once you develop a social life in your new town. Sign up for some clubs or activities that will allow you to meet new friends. Think about all the things you can do now that you don’t have someone else around, like eating ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner without anyone judging you! I like doing beautification/spa things around the house when my FI isn’t around.
I’ve cried plenty of times at the beginning of an LDR. Don’t worry – the tears will stop, =). If you and your FI can survive this distance it will make your relationship that much stronger!
Post # 5
awwwwwww *hugs* It does get easier and before you no it you will be with him again. Trust me! Me and my FI have been through several times apart over the years. Once for 4 months for my work term (although he did visit once) and family vacations and just recently for 8 weeks when he went away for work (No visit) :S I had my new puppy for that one thank god!
Take this time to be you! Get into a gym routine, I found working out let off a lot of steam, stress and emotions I built up! Have more chick flicks nights and enjoy being around new people 🙂