Post # 1
Background: Back in November, I asked my girlfriends to be my bridesmaids. One was very upfront with me and said she would love to, but she was going to be trying to get pregnant. I totally understood, and she did recently find out she is pregnant. I am thrilled for her, but after talking we decided it might be best if she does not participate in the ceremony. She was worried about fitting in her dress and being comfortable/healthy. It also worked out because a groomsman had recently dropped out, so if she decided not to take on the responsibility of being in the ceremony, my bridesmaids/groomsmen would be even again 🙂
Cut to the chase: She still wants to participate and contribute to the bridal shower, bachelorette party, getting hair and makeup done, etc. She has been a good friend of mine for many years.. like 20, seriously. Though she won’t be participating in the ceremony the day of the wedding, I would like to honor her for her great friendship and help throughout the planning process. Any ideas how I could do that?
Post # 3
Would she be up to being your MC or something like that? That is probably the next biggest responsibility, after being in the bridal party.
Other than that, you could give her a special title in your program, like Planning Coordinator or something.
Post # 4
In all honesty, she still CAN be a BM! She can get a dress in the right color, some flat shoes and you can have a chair nearby if she needs it. She doesn’t have to have the same exact dress as the others. She has done so many of the things girls expect of their BM’s, I seriously see no reason she can’t be one. Just accomodate whatever her needs are. If for some reason she can’t be there, she can still be listed in your program and your officient can mention she couldn’t be with you today. Your sides don’t have to be even and it sure seems like the easiest and most lovely way to honor a 20 year friendship. If I saw that I would think the bride was cooler than a banana split, and I love me some banana split.
Post # 5
When you said, she isn’t going to participate in the ceremony the day of the wedding..is that because you don’t want her to or did you put someone else to these tasks?
Otherwise I was going to say, you can always have her say a reading, or she can pass out the pamphlets or help greet your guests as they walk into the ceremony.
If not, maybe at your reception, write a cute poem or something to show how appreciative you are of her in front of everyone…or take her out and treat her to something whether its a spa day, she might enjoy that since she was/is pregnant.
Post # 6
@jessicaandjames5914: It was her decision not to walk in the ceremony. I didn’t replace her; I already have 7 other bridesmaids! I will definitely do something special for her though, because she is a great friend and will be helping me plan for the wedding. Thanks for the suggestions!
Post # 7
@HVbride: I know this has been suggested already, but can she do a reading? My husband only wanted two groomsmen, so my 3rd best friend did a reading in the ceremony.
I like the job of reader because it’s a bit of prominence and not much work. I don’t think usher/greeter would work because she probably doesn’t want to stand for a long time since she’s pregnant.