Post # 1
My FMIL is really sweet and I absolutely adore her, but she’s very quiet. She often doesn’t say anything about anything because she’s afraid of intruding. She always feels like she would be bothering us (I honestly have no idea where she gets this from!!).
Since we’re planning our wedding in my hometown (3 hours away) she doesn’t get to do a lot of the things my parents do… i.e. check out venues, meet with vendors, etc. Of course, she’s not paying for it either… but FI is her only son and I really wish I could have her be more involved in the wedding process.
Any ideas of what I can do to include her more?? I feel so bad that she’s missing out, but I can’t think of anything!!
Post # 3
Perhaps you could give her a DIY project? My FFIL manages a hobby lobby so we got most of our centerpiece stuff from there, but I felt like MIL still wasn’t really involved. We are all planning this long distance, but I thought maybe I could give her a couple things – tying our colored bows around all the bubbles for the ceremony, or sending her a kit with everything to make some simple programs. I have a hard time letting things go, but I’m trying to give her something that I won’t secretly cry about if it comes out horrible 😛 She seemed to insinuate that she couldn’t do anything crafty (which is ridiculous she sews stockings for christmas every year)
Post # 4
What about inviting her to the tasting and dress shopping? If you give her notice and do it on a weekend I bet she’d love to join yoU!
Post # 5
I had my FMIL help address and send out rehearsal invites and help with some rsvps for the wedding day. I know that sounds boring but it was something she asked to help with and was the easiest because she lives 7 hours from my family. We also included her in the shower of corse. Also in our situation my mil was excited to not have to do anything because she had already married off two daughters lol
Maybe if you have a weekend where you will be having a lot of wedding meetings or errands or diy projects to work on you could invite her to come in for the weekend! Or put her in charge of a DIY project she can work on from home
Post # 6
I invited mine to see my dress, and then the location. She was so thrilled to be included! I think if you include her in on anything, and ask her opinion on some things, she will appreciate it.
Maybe ask her to help you pick flowers? Cake flavor? Shoes?? Anything, really, it doesn’t have to be big.
Post # 7
@belle2Be dress shopping is a great idea!!
Post # 8
My FMIL is somewhat similar to yours. I’ve made it a point to include her in all of my dress appointments and we’ll be hitting up a few bridal shows together next year. Let me tell you, she was so stoked that my mom, aunt and I included her in the dress shopping. She even wrote them both thank you notes after the fact. She’s so god damn cute! lol. I know its hard to have her be included in the other wedding details from 3 hours away but I think dress shopping and a few bridal shows are a good start.