- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
FH and I have finally set a month and year for our wedding. We’ve had to change the date several times due to several circumstances and for a while I just gave up trying to decide. But some good things have happened allowing us to set a little something in stone so I feel like I can actually start some wedding planning.
The only problem is there is nowhere to get married! The original plan was to get married in my childhood church. FH Nd I are not very religious or anything but he wanted to get married in a church if possible or at least have the ceremony officiated by a preacher. I found out that the pastor of that church has passed away and I don’t really feel ok with that plan anymore. I wanted that pastor for a specific reason and that reason was that he knew my father very well and would be able to say something for and about him ( my dad passed away in 1998) from his own knowledge, not because someone out in on paper and asked him to say it. It might sound petty, but it just doesn’t sit with me. So we started looking at other options. The church FH attended as a child is nice, but there is nowhere for a reception. They closed in an area to make a nursery and where receptions would have been held now only seat about 10 people comfortably with no room for food. So I expanded my search to FHs current city and found three locations. One is completely out of our budget not including the cost of renting chairs and tables, one is not available for weddings in October (it’s outdoor and they stop weddings in August) and the other is far too large and does not offer any smaller rooms for small events.
This has been a problem since FH and I first started looking at venues last year. Most of the churches required you to be members. My mom got married to my stepdad in an old bed and breakfast but some computer business has bought that and made it into an office space. We thought we found an old barn transformed into an old country church but it’s now on privately owned land and it’s in the plans to be converted into an antiques store.
It’s not exactly logical to have an outdoor wedding in October in Alabama. It’s not exactly scenic and the weather is very unpredictable. I don’t know anyone with an area large enough to let us have it at their home. FH wants to drive up to a wedding chapel in Tennessee and just have it done there, but FMIL couldn’t travel that far in her current condition.
I’m just frustrated with it all right now. I know I still have time, but having a venue would have made me feel much better and like we really are getting married instead if just saying we are one day.
Ok, end rant.