(Closed) How can I not invite one of my step sister?

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

How old is she and how close is she with very one else? If she’s an adult and kind of estranged then I wouldn’t invite her. But depending on who she has a relationship with in the rest of the family, you might want to consider wether the potential drama is worth it over one invitation. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Wellllllll… If she’s been an asshat to you for the past few years, chances are she won’t take you up on the invitation. She’s the one being immature. How would you feel if she did an about face, and realized the error of her ways? Sending an invite at least allows a modicum of a chance for that to happen, but if you send her nothing, that pretty much seals the deal that you guys will not be reconciling ever.

I can’t tell you what to do though. I had a similar scenario with my father. I wound up inviting him, and he wound up not coming. Point taken, and I live my life accordingly. But I’ve never stooped to his level.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Well, I think you should invite her (to save face and take the higher road), but do you think she would go to the wedding, given the way she treats you?  Is she the type to attend, as a “booyah-in your face” thing?  Have you talked to your dad about it?  If I were in the same situation as you, I would be struggling as well.  Big hugs!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Don’t invite her 

Post # 9
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504 posts
Busy bee

Being a bitch to you is one thing but if she has really expressed that she doesn’t want to be a part of your life then I would respect that by not inviting her.

Death can do really crazy things to people. I wish it were different for your family.

Post # 10
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7794 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

What age were you when your father remarried? Did you ever live with them? I have some people who are technically step-siblings but I hardly know them because mum remarried well after I married.

You can certainly do that. If you never lived with them I think it’s clear cut, it’s just like friends and you can certainly invite a friend and not her sister. If you did live with them I can see the sense of obligation, but she’s deliberately shut you out of her life so I see no reason to invite her.

Post # 11
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6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

just invite her- odds are, she won’t come

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d say no, don’t invite her. You guys sound like there isn’t even a relationship left to salvage so why bother? That probably would just open you up to insults from her about what the invitation looked like!

Post # 16
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2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yeah, I wouldn’t invite her.

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