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My wedding is sixteen days away. Tension is high. Drama is imminent. My grandmother was diagnosed with colon cancer and had emergency surgery two weeks ago. What should be the happiest time is filled with doctor's appointments. My mother has to help decide whether chemo is appropriate. She's miserable. They are best friends. I am sad too, but my mother is taking it much harder.

Can anyone relate? Any wisdom to impart to me?

I'm sorry you are going through this, especially now.  Losing a loved one is always hard.  I would just say that you have to be supportive.  Make sure your mom takes care of herself while she is taking care of her mom.  Make sure she eats, has what she needs to be comfortable.  Be understanding of your mom's emotions.  She might be a little wound up.  Her emotions will likely be everywhere, just like yours, in the next few weeks. 

I'm sending you happy thoughts.

My mom takes care of her mom who has end-stage Alzheimer's, so I know how you feel.  Soon2BeMrsC is right, be as supportive as you can.  Make sure your mom is eating and getting enough sleep, etc. 

Hang in there, I'll send happy thought too!

My aunt went into the hospital a few days before my wedding (Aug 1st.) Her cancer had come back with a vengence and she died ten days ago. So, I can relate. The best thing you can do to support your mom is to let her know you are there for her, and that if there is anything she needs, you are there to help. When people start to slip away and there is nothing you can do about it, it becomes very surreal. Some people go numb, some need to stay busy, some just need to cry. Luckily, depending on how far along she is, your grandmother's colon cancer can be treated. Explore all of your options thoroughly and then make decisions on what will give her the best quality of life. I know how badly this sucks... I loved my aunt dearly and lost my dad five years ago to cancer. In regards to your wedding though, the show must go on! Remember the wedding is only one day, but your marriage is forever. Take this time to lean on your future husband for strength. It will all work out the way that it is supposed to. Hang in there lady.

Thanks. Your posts make me feel better.