Post # 1
ok ill give small backround,im the youngest in my family(24).and recently got engaged to my bf of 8 yrs. my sister assumed she would be my maid of honor even though i had thought of my best friend first.my sister is not married and is the most irresponsible person i know. she has a long history of bad drug use which caused me to move out at 16. she has no job, does not drive and still does drugs.when i explained to her the responsibility that maid of honor has she replies with,”oh your having a real wedding”!!!!!!!!!!!!! i had to bring up the fact that she did not show up to my highschool graduation,(by the way i was the first in my family to graduate high school) also my mom passed at 49 yrs old last year and i had to take care of all of the expenses and arangments by myself and of course my fiance was there for me she wasnt. when i was talking with her it was ten at night and she was “just waking up” o god i dont know what to do! she cries to me saying that she can handle it but moh is suppose to make my wedding easier not crazy stressfull. im also afraid she ruin my wedding by being high on drugs,of coarse im used to her behavior but his family is not!!!!! help please
Post # 3
What about making them co-MOH to save yourself the drama, and let your bff act the role, and your sister just take the name?
Post # 4
@ddw:well after i wrote this i called my sis because this weighed heavy on my heart,i told her that i was having two mohs and she started crying. saying how could i do this to her and that noone does that.people do in fact have two.but i kinda put my foot down.shes still not letting this go so we’ll see.thank for the advice!
Post # 5
This is precisely why I questioned why people would assign Maid/Matron of Honor to a KNOWN drama queen sister. The fact is, it doesn’t matter WHAT you do, she will find a way to create drama if that’s her mission.
Choose your bridal party based on who you and Fiance want to stand with you.
Post # 6
I have two MOHs! People definitely DO it!
Post # 7
People have 2 all the time. I think you are a great sisiter that you want to include your sisiter as much as possible even though she lets you down! One day she will see how lucky she is. Keep strong!
Post # 8
🙁 I definitely feel for you. Im having the same issues with my sister, who just because she’s my sister, assumed she’d be the Maid/Matron of Honor. Well now I have 3 MOH’s….LONG LONG STORY. Love my sister, but it’s not what I wanted.
Sending some hugs your way, hope you figure this one out.
Post # 9
I have four equal bridesmaids – I really dislike the idea of singling out one of my girls to be maid of honour. So they all are. They all had different roles – one organised the hen night, one is going to sign the register, one is Fi’s sis, one helped a lot with the preps – and they have all been brilliant. So you could just have ‘bridesmaids’ and no Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 10
@cherryshake:thxis is great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!thanks guys this is what i needed!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 11
My best friend feels that her younger sister may be too young to be able to handle all the major details of the wedding. I told her awhile back I didn’t care about the title and I would handle the big stuff (bridal shower and bachelorette) while carefully not stepping on lil sis’s toes, but she put her foot down and is making us co-MOHs. It is definitely doable.
However, if you don’t want her in your wedding at all – if there will be drama – then don’t have her be a Maid/Matron of Honor at all.