Post # 1
So we had the official money talk this weekend. Ever since getting engaged a year ago my mom would always say “well you know me and daddy want to help you out a little”. FI and I are totally appreciative that they want to help, but regardless we budgeted our whole wedding so that we could afford it ourselves, with the thought that if the money never comes we will still be ok. We have been trying really hard to keep costs down and have sacrificed on a few items along the way to do so (why are weddings so expensive?!)
Well this weekend they sat us down and broke the news about how much they were offering and it is DOUBLE what I kind of thought it would be, aka A LOT OF MONEY which covers about 2/3 of our budget and allows us to add to our savings/future!
We couldn’t believe it and are so lucky to have them. We really want to do something special to thank them for this amazing generosity because it means so much to us. We are thinking about maybe gifting them with a vacation to take after the wedding, and are also wondering what we can do now to show how thankful we are.
What kind of gifts did you give to your parents/family who helped out so significantly with wedding costs?? How did you show your gratitude?
Post # 3
We knew our gift to them would be a monetary contribution towards their portion of a family trip that we’re planning for next year. Once we got all our wedding money, we decided how much to give. We also got them a giftcard to a restaurant.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
My parents contributed much more to the wedding than we were expecting, too. We decided to gift them a weekend at a romantic B&B in a part of Alaska they’ve always wanted to go to, and we are giving them a wedding album. I also handwrote them a really long, special card to give to them on the wedding day, and I gave them a framed photo of Mr. W and I with the caption “We owe you a wedding album!”
Post # 6
You can’t really thank them enough and you don’t have to. They did it because they wanted to and you can thank them by getting good value and making sure that you all have a good time at your wedding. Obviously you can get them a nice gift but I don’t think you need to overthink it – maybe a framed family photo of all of you together would be nice.
Post # 7
I think a really heartfelt written thank you note is the best thing you could do. Any gift you give them will be appreciated, I’m sure, but they’re giving you this gift because they love you, they can afford it and they want you to enjoy it! You don’t need to reciprocate with a super generous gift – just let them know how much it means to you. 🙂