(Closed) How can my father perform our wedding ceremony?

posted 10 years ago in San Francisco Bay Area
Post # 3
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

You are going to think I am nuts!!!

 So my fiance and I went literally two weeks ago to a winery in Napa called Anomaly Vineyards (which btw they ROCK. We made an appointment I told them we were bringing our chocolate lab if she could come to. Mostly because that vacay our *funny* goal was to bring our dog with us wine tasting!) Anyhow the owners were waiting for us with dog friendly treats for our dog!!!

 Ok so the owners tell us that the location I was looking to for w possible wedding site- their son got married there too! And the winery owner, he did some ordainment online that let him be ordained for 24 hours!!!

 I can’t remember the website– but Since you are talkig about NorCal and Napa… please please please! Call Anomaly vineyard wine owner (they are super small and extremely personable. )Tell them I told you about them and tell them I brought our dog Kahlua for a visit. They should remeber us since it was fairly recent. I watched the wine owners wife (amazing woman) give her dog IV fluids (I know I couldn’t believe, as a nurse I HAD to see it with my OWN EYES).  As them where the wine owner/dad went to online to get it done!!! And let me know how it goes!!!

 So funny how you asked this. Hahaha.

Post # 4
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Gosh I noticed a ton of typos… Sorry! I was just too excited… Go to http://www.anomalyvineyards.com

 Ask for steve or linda if you decide to call (the owners). This is the number they gave me to call them- (I had to check my records…) 707-967-8448

or e-mail them online- they respond pretty quickly. I am so excited for you!

Post # 5
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Newbee

Hey Anoosheh! I don’t know if the above answer told you what you wanted… (sorry Sparkles, I didn’t understand!), but I am actually an ordained minister, and I have performed two wedding ceremonies myself. (My official legal title is "Nondenominational officiant!") I became an ordained minister online in less than two minutes through the Universal Life Church. Their website is wwwdotthemonasterydotcom. It’s 100% legit, totally legal, free, and your dad can do your ceremony! I would double check your state’s requirements just to make absolutely sure of the qualifications of an officiant, but I was good to go in California. Good luck!

Post # 6
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Yeah I know– Sorry! (I was just saying I knew of someone else who had gotten ordained- the way they <the owners of the winery> explained it to me was that the father/wine owner was ordained just for 24hours to be marry his son) That’s all. I just didn’t know where they did it online so I was referring Anoosheh to them.  Lost in translation I suppose. I’m sorry!     

Post # 7
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2008

SaraLady19 mentioned checking the state requirements for an officiant, but you might want to check with the county clerk for where you’re getting married. In Michigan it’s legal (well, depending on your reading of state law; according to a very strict interpretation, only a preacher of the gospel can officiate at a wedding…which means no one of Jewish/Islamic/any other faith can technically be married, lol), but my county doesn’t allow it. And I wanted my dad to officiate as well 🙁

Post # 9
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508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

We live in SF, but are getting married in Marin.  We’re having a friend marry us – she is going to get deputized for a day.  In both SF and Marin counties, you can register for this deputization and it is good for a ceremony anywhere in the state of CA.  We were going to get it done in SF, but they want over $100 for the deputization fee.  So, we checked the Marin County Clerk site and they’ll do it for $25.  All we need to do is get the marriage license first (up to 90 days prior to the ceremony) – no appointment needed for either, unlike SF.

The Marin site with info is here: http://www.co.<span class=”nfakPe”>marin.ca.us/depts/CC/Main/clerk/marriage.cfm

As SaraLady19 mentioned, it’s also legal in the state of CA for any ordained religious person to perform a ceremony. The ordination offered through the universal life church is popular – we were going to go this route, but opted for the deputization instead.  

 

Good luck! 

Post # 10
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13 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m heard about ordination throught the Universal Life Church.  Yes, it’s popular and many people do it and work as "ministers" as some if not all of their earnings in that role are tax-exempt.  I attended seminary for 9yrs and have a Mdiv. tho, since I’m not ordained I cannot officiate.  I do know that if one goes the route of using the ULC route that some times ministers in their own denomination will become upset.  I know the Roman Catholic church shuns this for both the person who is officiating and those who are getting married.  THe only reason I allude to this is because if any of you are active in a particular church you may want to ask if it’s ok.  I was going to do the ULC at one time for a friends wedding and was told by a priest not to eventhough the couple wasn’t even Christian.  Anyway just my 2 cents…

Post # 11
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our deputy marriage commisioner lives in Napa.  We live in San Jose.  Our wedding is in Woodside.  We’re dealing with 3 different counties.  According to CA law you can get a public marriage license or be deputized for a day in any county as long as the marriage occurs in CA.  Our friend will be deputized in Napa since he lives there and it will be for a 1-time event.  Your dad will need to turn in the paperwork to the Napa county clerk in person and pay a $100 fee.  Then he has to be sworn in. 

You can email the Napa county clerk at <span class=”HcCDpe”>[email protected] and ask them to email you the paperwork so that you can fill it out ahead of time.  They were very fast when responding to my email.  If your dad is a CA resident then it might be easier if he went through the process in the county he lives (saves time and money on traveling all over the place). 

I haven’t completed the whole process yet, but I would like to know if it worked out for you. 

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