- Mrs. Wizard
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012 - Glades Pike Winery, Somerset, PA
So, we’re having a completely secular wedding. FFIL is extremely Catholic, and is infamous for his extremely long, drawn-out, awkward, uncomfortable, painful prayers/graces. He has already offered, practically INSISTED, on making an announcement and saying grace before dinner at our reception. Mr. Wiz and I put our collective foot down and said no. No prayers, no grace, no mention of religion, nothing. Especially not from FFIL — seriously guys I cannot describe to you in words how terribly uncomfortable and cringe-worthy his speeches are. He’s one of those people who thinks he’s a great speaker, but who you really DO NOT want to let have a microphone.
FFIL backed down reluctantly, but I have a feeling he is going to try to get his hands on a microphone at the reception anyway.
On the other hand, we want our best man and MOH to make speeches. Our plan was this:
-Wizards make grand entrance at the reception, go directly to table to sit down
-Caterer opens buffet line and starts letting tables go up
-As dinner is winding down, BM and MOH make speeches
-Mr. Wizard and I grab the mic and say a few words of greeting/thanks
-We go cut the cake, first dance, dance floor opens, etc.
Is there a way to do this without making FFIL feel crappy (or, more importantly, without letting him get a second to grab a mic)? We figure that not having any speeches before dinner will cut down on the chance of him grabbing a mic and saying a prayer (something that would REALLY make Mr. Wizard and I uncomfortable).
I dunno. This is just an awkward situation, I guess. Anyone have any insight?
For what it’s worth, Mr. Wiz and I are paying for the wedding 100% ourselves, so FFIL doesn’t have veto power in that sense, nor is he the host of the event.