(Closed) How Certain Were You…?

posted 5 years ago in Home
Post # 3
14337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was sure on the physical asects of the house, great size, great yard, good layout.  I was unsure about the price (about 20% higher than our target budget) and location (the town itself is spectacular, top rated public school in the state, but very far from my parents).  We’ve come to terms with the price, and love the house.  Only thing is that the location cannot be changed, and I am still bothered by how far we are from my parents (for daily child care, since that was part of the future plan) as we get closer to the idea of having kids.

Post # 4
1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I was 95% sure, now I am 150% happy we purchased it!

I would tour it again with an open eye and try to look for defects, if you find something that you just can’t get over then it’s not the house for you…if you can overlook them then it is definitelyl your forever home….good Luck and happy house searching!


Post # 5
9218 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Just remember, once you make an offer, you could be committed for the next 5 – ? years to this house.  I think you have to be about 95% really into the house.  You are never going to love everything about it (or if you do, not the price!).  But you have to be able to picture yourselves there for a long time.  We visisted dozens and dozens of houses, and made offers on two that we really loved, and got the second.  I am so happy with it.

THe process gets really tiring and it’s easy to think, “I just want to buy a house and get this over with!”  But it’s really worth it to see tons of houses until you find one that’s almost just right.  Good luck!

ETA: True, you’re not technically committed until closing, as long as you have an offer that’s dependent on the inspection report.  (If there’s anything wrong at all, even something like a loose knob, you can back out.)  But once you’re in the process of inspection, negotiation, etc, you don’t want to get cold feet and back out because you don’t like the house enough.  Better to love it when you make an offer IMO.

Post # 6
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Its hard to find the perfect house if you don’t build from scratch.  Location is something that you can’t change, so that would be most important.  Things like layout and seclusion (add some trees for privacy) could possibly be fixed later.  Buying a house is big step.  I wasn’t 100% sure when we bought ours, but I am extremely happy with it 🙂  Good luck, chica!

Post # 7
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When the house I live in now went on the market I had already submitted offers on 2 other homes that eventually went to someone else.  Thank goodness…

When my realtor and I stepped through the front door of the house she looked over at me and said, “Oh OctBride…you have got to have this house!”  I could feel it too.  🙂  It also had everything I wanted/needed.  I swear it was like it was built specifically for me.

This was right before the housing market explosion but houses were already selling in one day or less at the time.  This house came on the market on a Friday, was opened for showings on Saturday, and they were reviewing offers and making their decision on Sunday.  We put my offer in as soon as we got back to the realtor’s office and found out there were already offers.  It was an absoltute whirlwind.

So was I certain?  Yes…most definitely.

Post # 8
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@lolot:  Just remember, once you make an offer, you could be committed for the next 5 – ? years to this house.

Actually, you have to sign the paperwork before you’re committed to anything. Up until that point, either party can walk away.

I’d say 90-95%. There are things that can be changed, upgraded, etc., but there are things that can’t be changed, as well, so you really have to look at what you don’t like about the house and see if it can be changed, or if it would be too much of a hassle. I’m good at looking at houses and seeing the bones of them, and knowing what could easily be changed and what’s a dealbreaker. We’ve definitely had to make concessions with our budget, which kind of sucks. For instance, I want a 2-car garage, because I don’t want to have to fight over one stall (though Fiance says he’d give it to me), but unfortunately, the vast majority of the houses in this city in our budget were built in the 1950s and 1960s with a one car garage and sometimes just a car port. 

Post # 9
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wasn’t completely sure it was the right house, but almost all the other houses we had seen in our price range were completely unacceptable, and the ones that weren’t unacceptable still had significant drawbacks for us.  The negatives about our house are things I can either live with or change eventually (ceilings aren’t as high as I’d like, but they’re acceptable; kitchen is small and out-of-date, but we can remodel and add cabinets and counter space; upstairs bathroom is tiny, but that just means less to clean, etc.)  And the positives are great – wonderful neighborhood in a fairly convenient location, huge yard with all sorts of gardening and landscaping possibilities, 2 full baths, gas radiant heat, etc.

Unless you have unlimited funds (or live in an area with low cost of living), there will always be some sort of trade-offs you have to make, I think.  I think it’s like wedding dresses.  Some people will have a huge emotional reaction that lets them know they’ve found the one.  Others will compare a hundred gowns and pick the one that fits their criteria better than the rest.

Post # 10
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Was the house 100% of everything we would have liked?  No.  As a PP said, unless you are building from scratch with a practically unlimited budget, no house is going to have everything you could possibly want exactly how you want it.  There are always going to be trade-offs and compromises.

That said, when we walked through our house, we were 110% sure it was the right house for us!

Post # 11
7312 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

On our first walk through I wasn’t sure at all. But then we left, and I kept thinking about it and talking about it and dreaming about it. So 2 days later we went back for our 2nd visit and I was absolutely sure, not a shadow of doubt in my mind. After 18 months and 3 previous failed offers I knew it was exactly where we wanted to plant our roots and spend the rest of our lives. Is the house perfect? Far from it. But it has great bones and the location simply cannot be beat. Since this is our forever home, I really could not have cared less about the cosmetics, and the house’s issues are all cosmetics.

Post # 12
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@JenniferG  – same here!  The house we purchased was heads and tails above the other houses in our price range.  Larger, more updated, and a huge, private yard.  I still don’t LOVE the layout, but we have some longer term plans to change it to suit our wants.


I will say that we love our house, though!  I think you need to shop around and see what else there is for your price range.  Once you do that enough you’ll know a good deal when you see it!

Post # 13
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

With both our first house and the house we just purchased a month ago, we were totally in love from the moment we walked in. Were they perfect? No, but the imperfections were things that could either be fixed or that we could live with. 

Do you see yourself getting to a point where you don’t mind the negative aspects, or do you think you will dislike them more and more the longer you live there? If it’s going to be something that will always bother you, keep looking. 

Post # 16
4954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I was 100% certain. Sure, the house had cosmetic issues (ugly paint and wallpaper), but that was an easy fix. The layout was exactly what I wanted, and the bones were good.

It sounds to me like you really like the amenities and location, but the actual house not so much. :/

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