How close are you go SO's family?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How close are you to your SO's family?
    I'm closer to them than my own family : (13 votes)
    7 %
    We are close and have a good relationship with many of them : (102 votes)
    58 %
    Ehh; they are ok : (43 votes)
    24 %
    I don't really like them but tolerate them : (14 votes)
    8 %
    I hate them! : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m very close with his mom and one of his sisters, less so with his dad and with his other sister, but we all get along. 

    Post # 4
    1048 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Artificial-Sweetener:  I used to think that SO’s family and I were close.  But as the wedding approaches, I keep noticing how they’re being passive-aggressive in getting things how they want it.  (i.e. adding seafood to the appetizers, NOT asking a particuar relative to be a flower girl against my wishes, not doing some traditions with MY heritage, etc.)  Now, it seems more like an act or a front than genuine and sincere affection.

    Post # 5
    462 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’m not super close with them, but we get along nicely. It’s more than “ehh ok” but not quite “we are close”, though we do like each other

    Post # 6
    2876 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    @Artificial-Sweetener:  your really lucky to be close to his family.

    I’m just the daughter in law nothing more which I think is really sad but they just have no interest in getting to know me better. I’ve grown to except it:((

    Post # 7
    2460 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Very close. I talk to my FMIL every day 

    Post # 8
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’m very close with his mum and sister.

    I honestly like his mum much better than my own at times! When we got engaged she was the one excited for us and she came in and comforted me before I made the phone call to my parents, who I knew would be less than thrilled since our engagement meant I’d move to England. She is really great. Always supportive and so welcoming. I adore her.

    I’ve also become great friends with his sister, and she is desperately trying to convince us to move closer to her so we can hang out more. I think she’ll be great once I move over there since I won’t have my own set of friends. I’ll still have her and won’t get too lonely! I think we’ll become very close.

    I simply don’t have a ton in common with his dad, but we still get on well. He enjoys explaining the game of cricket and football/soccer to me. He’s also very fun to drink with. I can’t see myself becoming close with him, but I do enjoy his company.

    I have hardly met his extended family, but those I have, I have enjoyed. They’re fun laid back people.

    Post # 9
    1346 posts
    Bumble bee

    I said “Eh, they’re okay” because some are amazing and others, not so much.

    Post # 10
    598 posts
    Busy bee

    I love his mother and I’m friendly with his 4 siblings, however I think in the past 6 years I have said under 50 words to his father….. I just can’t hold a conversation with that man! I feel so awkward and don’t know what to bring up in conversation. His mother is a talker so that part is easy!

    Post # 11
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Well, I’m a shy girl at first, so I have been trying to open up around them. It’s much better now, but it’s been a slow process for me. 6 years in the making, I might add 😛 Thankfully, they are always nice and welcoming towards me. He’s very close to my family though! He’s basically an uncle to my godson already. 

    Post # 12
    70 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    I am one of the lucky ones! His mother, sister and I text almost daily, we live interstate and don’t get to see them too often so it’s nice to be in regular contact. I am also on great terms with his brothers and father, they are all lovely and I often wish that they were my family (mine is quite dysfunctional). 

    Post # 13
    1464 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    His Mum and I talk on FB multiple times daily. I will be moving in with his family when I move to the US (tomorrow).

    Post # 14
    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Most of his family (his siblings especially) can’t stand me because I “took away” their meal ticket. They made their feelings blatantly known when FI had surgery and they realised I am his next of kin (together for 7.5 years, engaged for almost 7) and they couldn’t access anything of his. They made my life more than hell when it looked like FI wasn’t going to pull through. FI’s furious and barely has anything to do with them. They’re sucking up to him now because he put them in their place. They don’t know we’re getting married in 11 weeks and they’ll find out on fb like everyone else – FI’s decision. They would only try and ruin our day.

    However, my MIL thought I was the best thing ever, and we got along great until she passed away. I also get along with two of FI’s aunts and his two cousins, they had my back when the other drama went down.

    As for the rest of them… I wouldn’t spit on them if they were on fire… Unless I had a mouthful of alcohol.

    Post # 15
    4827 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    @orchidaloha:  That’s awesome!!

    I really like his parents but his brother is a little…. difficult. The truth is, he’s a lot like me… so I don’t like him much. 

    Post # 16
    3833 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    DH’s family is a lot of fun, and I haven’t met a family member I haven’t liked.Of course,they have their faults, but overall they’re great people and they really consider me part of the family – his mom and grandma call me, his dad sends me random things he thinks I would like, and I get Christmas gifts from the whole extended family. 

    I don’t think I could say I like them better than my own family, but when it comes to immediate family, with in-laws there’s less of the history you have with your own parents/siblings, so it’s easier in some ways.

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