Post # 1
If you’re not nearby, did you always plan to move? Or was the decision to live in a far flung locale a job/career/school thing?
If you live close, did you always want to live in your hometown?
After several very, uh, illuminating convserations with my ILs regarding what’s “normal” I’m wondering if my understanding of how people live is, in fact, completely warped.
Post # 3
I live in the basement . My current job is temporary, and until I find one with health insurance and stability or I get married, I’m going to keep living with them. It gives me one more year to enjoy my family, and it helps out a lot with saving money.
Once I move out, though, FI and I really want to stay in the same town that we grew up in. It’s a suburb of Indy, so it’s a great location anyway, but since our friends and both our families live here, we’d like to stay put.
Post # 4
We aren’t near either family right now. We had to move here for my husband’s job. I don’t have the option of living in my hometown since myh dad doesn’t live there anymore.
Post # 5
I live around 10 hours away from my parents. I grew up in a SMALL town! I got out of there as soon as I could lol. I visit them as much as I can but sometimes it’s hard being a college student and working full time. My SO’s mother lives like 20 mins away. So we see his family often.
Post # 6
We live 10 minutes from his parents and 3 hours away from mine. It’s very difficult for me to be so far from my family (even though I’m really not that far when compared to others….), I’ve even written a post or 2 about how difficult it is / homesick I am. I moved here to go school, met FI and never left! I always thought that I would return to my hometown after graduation, but life had other plans for me. 🙂 I want to move and be closer to my family, and FI does not. It is a major issue that we are unfortunately butting heads over and can’t seem to compromise on!
Post # 7
Well…we live next door to my grandparents, 3 doors down from one aunt and my parents live across the street from her. In between our house and my aunt’s house lives my grandmother’s brother and his family. My grandparents both grew up in our little neighborhood and when they moved back after 30+ years away, my parents and aunt had their houses built to live close to my grandparents. We bought a house here because we love it here & we love being so close to all my family!
Post # 8
I grew up in the same area I live in now. I have lived here my whole life.
Why am I still here? Mainly because I didn’t have much of a choice. I got pregnant at almost 19 and DH had just started his business when I got pregnant, so it was really impractical to move somewhere new when he already had clients lined up. Plus, our area is fantastic and I can’t think of a better place to raise our kids. I’m totally fine with staying here. Our neighborhood is right off the main village and we can walk to our favourite shops and we can walk the kids to school.
We live close to our parents and inlaws and it’s great. We’re maybe 10 mins. away if we hit every traffic light! lol! We’re very tight with both of our families and they’ve always been there and have been supportive of us, so it’s been great. I love that my kids get to see their grandparents, aunt, uncle, and cousins often as well.
Post # 9
I moved as far as I could as soon as I could. I literally picked a place off the map and went to college there, to get as far away from my family as I could. It wasn’t easy, but I had to do it to move forward.
Post # 10
We moved across the countries from both our families for my fiance’s school. (I actually moved to the west coast for undergrad, then ended up back at home afterwards for awhile). We both love it here, but it’s not home so we will probably end up moving back closer to family in a few years. Nothing’s settled, though.
Post # 11
his parents are in DC (where we lived until last june), mine are in michigan, and we’re in NYC. but, i’m “close” to my parents, in that they come visit a lot (my dad comes here on business trips about once every 2 months or so), and we email and talk on the phone regularly. hubby keeps in touch with his parents regularly too. my parents moved far away from their parents as soon as they were 18, so living far apart seems “normal.” but, i think when we have kids, they might move to be near us.
Post # 12
i am one of 5 kids and so far all of us are still in the same city as my parents. i live in the neighborhood next to my sister. my youngest brother is still at home along with one of my sisters who is mentally challanged. my other brother is about to take off for aghanistan but technically his home is still charlotte…I take it for granted! i know this…one day we will not all be in the same city for whatever reason and i will be so sad.
Post # 13
My parents live in a town of <400 right now. Any career option I have down there would involve Walmart or a gas station. Needles to say, St. Louis is where I was able to get a job out of college. Also where DH’s family lives, ~30 minutes away.
A lot of my friends/family live within 10 minutes of their parents (or in some cases, the same subdivision). I’d never heard of this until I moved here….my grandparents lived at least 30 minutes away–one set lived in another state! I was just never under the impression people WANTED to live so close to their parents!
Post # 14
We live in the same town as my parents and FH mom. Me and my mom also work in the same building so I see her every work day. I don’t think we could be any closer than that! I always joke that I can’t wait for her to retire 🙂
Post # 15
@teaadntoast: I didnt vote because we arent in the same state but I only live 25 minutes from my dad and 45 minutes from my mom and brothers.
I never imagined that DH and I would be back close to home. I live in Virginia and grew up in Maryland. It is basically the same place. I always thought I would graduate college and live somewhere far from my family. I went to school far away because I wanted to experience other places and DH and I would love to move somewhere further away from my family (not to get away from them) because we just want to experience the world!
Post # 16
I live half a country away – left Texas as soon as was humanly possible for liberal Boston! Moving to the bay area next year – my mom is there at least, but i’ll still be half a continent away from the rest of my family.