How close is too close for sisters and a first cousin to get married?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Is a wedding in May and two weddings a week apart in November too much for one family in one year?
    No, have 3 weddings but you should get married first before your cousin : (10 votes)
    10 %
    No, have 3 weddings and it doesn't matter which wedding is first : (60 votes)
    61 %
    Yes, you should move your wedding to 2015 because it is too close to your sister's : (5 votes)
    5 %
    Yes, it will be too burdensome on OOT guests/family : (20 votes)
    20 %
    Yes, it would be too much drama : (3 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    1662 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think your plan sounds ok. Just one thing to be aware of: two weddings a week apart might be super busy for planning during those 2 weeks (1 week lead up each) and you would both have to arrange honeymoons around each other. BUT this doesn’t mean you can’t, just something to keep in mind. If you’re really close and it truly doesn’t bother you, then go ahead and have a great time! Congratulations. 🙂

    Post # 4
    1428 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    My cousin got engaged about a year after me, and is getting married this weekend, a week before me!  However, it’s a little different for me, because he’s a dude, and we’re not in each other’s weddings or anything.  But he chose to have his wedding in my hometown, which was very convenient for me, even though all of the rest of our family is from various places around the country.  

    I really thought a lot of our relatives would use it as a week-long vacation or something, but I think only one aunt will be hanging around the whole week, and one cousin is going somewhere else for a week with her family, so the majority is either only going to one of the weddings or travelling twice.  

    It sounds like a lot to be a MOH twice AND get married all in the same year!  That’s not even counting any other weddings you might attend…  Sounds a little crazy, but do-able!

    Post # 5
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I misunderstood this thread title.   I interpreted it as getting married to each other, not timing between weddings.   Voted correctly though!

    Post # 6
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My mom is getting married August 31 and I’m getting married September 8. My fiance and I didn’t want to wait another year and my sister and nephews live in England so we couldn’t expect them to come out again.


    My mother and I aren’t having huge weddings. Hers is a small ceremony with a big party, mine is a Sunday lunch wedding. Neither of us are having bridals showers, bachelorettes, etc. It is working out great for us and I think you and your cousin can make it work if you are both on board 🙂

    Post # 9
    2474 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @LLemonDifficult:  Me too!! I was REALLY confused.. I was like, um…. never okay? 😛 

    Post # 10
    627 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I originally thought it was some sisterwives stuff….:-)


    I would honestly really worry about yours and your sisters right now. Your cousin isn’t even engaged yet. Even though she may be soon, you need to figure your stuff out and let her work her stuff out. I would go with Nov ’14.

    Post # 11
    7039 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    6 months between sisters is no problem. I’d say about 3 months is the minimum between sisters.

    1 week between cousins is trickier. Is your cousin sure the relatives would be ok with taking a whole week off to attend both weddings? Someone would need to talk to them. But on top of that, what would bother me would be that it could interfere with honeymoon plans. But I also don’t like the idea of forcing someone to move their wedding. That one’s hard…

    Post # 12
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My sister and I are getting married 5 weeks apart.  While we are making it work, I wouldn’t suggest it.  It is a big stress on our families (both financially and emotionally), and I feel really guilty about asking relatives to fly across the country so soon after another weeding.  (Our families are spread all over the country).  Plus, it gets weird with showers and such (I am wedding #2 and am foregoing showers, b/c I don’t want to ask relatives to attend another wedding event, nor do either of us sisters getting married want to ask the other — our MOH — to plan a shower when we are each trying to do our own weddings).  You can make anything work, but the more space you can build in, the better. 

    Post # 13
    539 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would think 6 months would be plenty of time for you and your sister. Any closer and it might be a financial burden for your family to attend both. As for you and your cousin, as long as you both don’t mind, I don’t see a problem with having them a week apart IF your guests are ok with spending their whole week vacation with you. As a guest, unless you lived somewhere cool that I’d like to visit, I would be unhappy to burn an entire week just to attend weddings.

    Post # 14
    789 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My FSIL, FI, and their cousin are all getting married within 15 months of each other, with the longest trip for anyone being a 2-3 hour flight. People are being super annoying about it and complaining about having to travel and give gifts. 

    I think its fine, but you should just be prepared for possible complaints. I keep reminding everyone that if they didn’t want weddings close together they shouldn’t have had three children in two years in the family.

    Post # 15
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I wouldn’t take a full week off work to visit the mainland in November from Hawaii. The time between your wedding and your sister’s seems fine, but I don’t think 1 week between yours and your cousin’s would turn out so well. Have you talked to any discreet hawaii relatives about it?

    Post # 16
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    This year my immediate family has had a big wedding anniversary, christening, funeral and two weddings, almost everyone is going/been to them all! Sometimes it’s just how it works out.  A bit selfishly though, even though i wouldn’t mind getting married last, I’d want to get my date out there early!

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