Post # 1
SO my frined got engaged Christmas 2011 and her wedding is labour day weekend 2013, i will be getting engaged sometime between now and christmas 2012 (but am clearly already planning….) I want to be married next year, in October or November. Is this a no no? Several of our mutual friends will have to travel for her wedding, of the ones travelling for hers only one would be travelling for mine as well (we live in the same province right now, her wedding is in our home province, mine will be where we live now). Advice?
Post # 3
A month apart doesn’t seem that bad to me. A day or a week apart might be more annoying. I think I’ll prob be fine but talk to the people that you’d like to travel and see if they can do both trips.
Post # 4
@MsGinkgo: I would think at least a month apart should be fine. If you’re worried about the guest(s) that have to travel for both, then talk to them and see if they can swing both with their work and finances…but maybe wait until you are actually engaged before you start worrying over that. Also, talk to your friend since it’s obvious you are excited for her wedding and do not want to upset her. When you announce your engagement, talk to her about your plans and ideas and judge her reaction. You may be worrying for nothing and she may look forward to sharing the planning process with someone who is going through the same thing and share all the excitement of it!
Post # 5
I think you need to hold off until you’re actually engaged to pick a date and worry about it.
As for what’s too close, I guess that’s up to you. My wedding is 2 weeks after a friends wedding (in which my FI is the best man). They got engaged before us and set their date right away. We tried to avoid being too close but it was just the only date that worked for us and our families. We’ve been together over 12 years, so honestly, I wasn’t willing to wait an extra year just so we didn’t get married too close to them. Our weddings are totally different, and really none of our guests will overlap.
Post # 6
Honestly you can plan your wedding for whenever you and FI want to but it is nice that you are concerned. If it was me I would wait at a minimum 2 weeks but probably a month because I would want my friends there and they might be on their honeymoon if you do it sooner. However if the one person that you are really worried about being there is important to you I would speak to them about it. Ask them if they could swing the timeframe that you are thinking about.
Post # 7
A month sounds just about right~ 🙂
Post # 8
Personally I think any date that doesn’t clash is ok, but if you want them to attend, think about their honeymoon, which probably means 2 weeks apart minimum. There will only be 1 friend travelling for both so it’s no big deal.
I’ve known 4 friends to get married on 4 consecutive weekends!
EDIT: Oh Labor day is early September in Canada? Then anytime in Oct or Nov is fine IMHO.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)
I would give it at least a month…especially to give those a chance to recover if they will be attending both. Weddings are expensive…. so Im sure several people would appreciate a chance to get on their feet before they have to put out more money. Sorry to say this …but putting more time between the two dates might benefit you in terms of gift amounts.
Also since she is already engaged Id let this be her time, when it happens to you Im sure you want all the focus on you… so the more distance between the weddings IMO the better. The beginning of Nov seems to be a good time if shes getting married early September.
Post # 10
@paula1248: it’s actually the last weekend in August next year, i think the holiday is the 1st, i just checked. She didn’t tell me the date she jus tsaid labour day weekend 2013 so we know we have to plan our vacation accordingly
Post # 11
@langel86: i’m definiately going ot do everything i can to make sure she gets her big days first, i’m one of those people who’s afraid of stelaing thunder 🙂
Post # 12
I think just ask her – my fiance’s best man is getting married next year, so we asked him which dates were “out of the question” for him and his fiancee. They were perfectly happy to let us know how much time they wanted around their wedding for the buildup/wind down.
Post # 13
A month is a good amount of time between weddings. However, I think you should wait until you are actually engaged before doing any serious planning. Looking on Pinterest and getting ideas = fine. Contacting and booking vendors = too soon.
Post # 14
Depends how close you are with her. Mine is 2 weeks before my friends. But we are close and have very different styles so our weddings wont be similar or anything. I’m SUPER excited about her wedding and i adore her FI. We are probably going to have a joint bachelorette as well since we have a group of the same friends.
So it totally depends. But it gets annoying really fast when you try to avoid all the weddings.
Also, wait till your engaged.
Post # 15
I think you should make sure to talk to this bride friend about when it. You don’t have to be engaged for that talk if this is a close friend and you’re certain to be engaged by christmas time this year. You could bring it up “Since you’re getting married, I’ve been thinking about what time of year I would like my wedding to be someday, I really want to have an October or November wedding. Wouldn’t it be cool if SO proposed soon, then we could have our weddings close together!” Then gage her reaction, if she seems or says she doesn’t think she would want that, then you will have one pissed off friend, if she genuinely seems to be enthusiastic about that hypothetical idea then you should be fine.
Post # 16
@Swizzle: I agree, I’ve seen too many boards with “I can’t believe she decided to get married the same year as me! How rude!”