Post # 1
Wedding is expensive, and I am trying to keep it at max $100 per person for food and drink. Everyone I run into always tell me I need to remembe to invite them to my wedding, how do I respond to that?
Not only that I know every asian person will bring kid to my wedding, if they are married with two kids they will bring the whole family to the wedding. I don’t like many kids at my wedding unless they are my first cousin’s kids or from my immediate family. I don’t think people should bring little toddlers or young teen to someone’s wedding, but knowing the Asian tradition, pple would haul their entire family to the wedding, or people you dont know and dont invite show up unexpectedly. How do I tell people not to bring uninvited guests and bring their toddlers?
Post # 3
I have a FI that is willing to invite everyone in the universe to the wedding. I think people feel that even if you just say hi to them on a regular basis that you are friends and that you should invite them to your wedding. Just stick to your guns and tell them that you have a budget and you must stick to it.
Post # 4
Thanks, I will be firm to that. I told my family member that don’t plan on inviting their friends to my wedding just because I know their friends and their friends know me. My big sis even gets upset when I said I am not inviting some of her employees and some people from her husband’s side of the family. I don’t want to invite people just because they know me through my family members, deep down I have no connection with them.
Post # 5
I agree…just stand firm. When I get asked about the wedding I always seem vague and end with a complaint that figuring out the guest list is the hardest thing we are working on because we can’t invite everyone. Most times the person will nod in agreement and change the subject. Great way to not say anything at that moment. I think people get caught up in the excitemnet and don’t realize how much it costs.
Most important don’t stress.
Post # 6
I agree but we had an entire table of uninvited children show up and their parents took a table and essentially made some of my guests have to find a place to sit even though we had a seating chart. You can stand firm, but sometimes it still won’t matter. I suggest you be prepared.