how common are destination bachelor/bachelorette parties?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Describe a typical bachelor/bachelorette party where you live:
    MUST be a destination party to somewhere crazy/exotic : (1 votes)
    2 %
    destination party but low key : (4 votes)
    10 %
    we stay close to home : (12 votes)
    29 %
    strippers must be present! : (1 votes)
    2 %
    no stripping necessary : (9 votes)
    22 %
    spend a less than $200 : (10 votes)
    24 %
    spend $200 - $1000 : (4 votes)
    10 %
    spend more than $1000 : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    5905 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @Stace126:  Low Key is the norm around here…I think I would slap someone if they tried to tell me I needed to spend my vacation time and money on a party for someone JUST because they’re getting married…and then I would tell them I’m not going.

    Around here, you either throw a party at someone’s house, drink some adult beverages, watch a couple of funny movies, or go out for a night on the town…all said and done it isn’t a big deal at all and everyone got to have a good time.

    Bachelor parties are pretty much the same, strip clubs aren’t imperative but they aren’t taboo either….everyone gets a little drunk and goes home happy…it works!

    Post # 4
    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Stace126:  I wish my friends were all low-key! But no, most of my friends are very well able to afford destination parties. I’ve gone to Cabo and New Orleans, and those two parties cleaned me out. I’d love to attend a party that’s just a local dinner and a night out. My own bachelorette was like that too – I kept it local to where the majority of my friends were.

    Post # 5
    7281 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Our circle is low-key all the way. I had 1 bride tell me she wanted a destination bachelorette in Vegas (on top of her destination wedding in the Outer Banks) and I told her flat out that it wasn’t in the cards. She is a wonderful person who is normally very level-headed, but being a “bride” gave her all sorts of unrealistic ideas about things. We were all quite greatful when the wedding was over and she went back to being herself.

    A typical bachelorette in our group consists of food and drinks. Definitely no strippers. male strippers = ewwwwwww A typical bachelor party is equally subdued. And I don’t think anyone ever spends more that $125ish.

    Post # 6
    8480 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Most people just go out bar hopping here.  I guess guys might go to a strip club or bar hopping?  We did go to Vegas for mine, which was fine (it was their idea and we had fun) but we had to go in the summer and I’m not a big fan of Vegas in the summer!

    Post # 7
    1668 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @Stace126:  destination parties are very common here, but i think its because we have a lot of great options within a 2-4 hour drive (4 hours to most NC/SC beaches and 2 hours to the mountains of NC)…

    my bachelorette party is at a cabin in the mountains for the weekend, and will most likely cost around $200 per person (including gas/food/lodging) for the whole weekend. FI and his buddies are going to wilmington, nc for a fishing weekend – they’ll most likely spend more like $400 or more each.

    i might add that we are older (mid to late 30s) and most of our friends are more established money-wise, so its not a huge thing to ask and everyone is excited to go on an adventure! when i was in my 20s, a night on the town was quite common bc we were all on a budget!

    Post # 8
    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It’s about 50/50 in my area for low-key and destination. While a girls beach trip would be awesome, my group of friends can’t (nor would I want them to) shell out that kind of money.

    We did lowkey. My MOH arranged to do a Sips n Strokes class (which I loved, and everyone got to take home a piece of art to remember the day!!) then we went to a local Mexican place and ate and drank and got a little rowdy. Nothing crazy and we were all home before dark. It was fun, memorable, inexpensive and just how I would have liked to spend the day.

    DH and his guys went skeet shooting at a local shooting range, then went to dinner and capped the night at a cigar bar. He really enjoyed it and said he wouldn’t have changed anything.

    Post # 9
    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Ugh, I wish!  Every bachelorette party I have been to involves a flight, hotel, fancy dinner, fancy clubs with bottle service, etc.  Costs a fortune!

    Post # 10
    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Destination is basically a given among my friends but we’re all late 20s/early 30s and making decent money. One of my BMs just got engaged and the convo at brunch was not “what should we do?” it was “Vegas or Turks and Caicos?”

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