How crazy are we?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Which of the following have you done during a fight with your fiance?
    I have sworn or yelled during a fight. : (143 votes)
    29 %
    I have called my fiance an offensive name. : (72 votes)
    15 %
    I have cried hysterically during a fight. : (124 votes)
    25 %
    I have thrown things at my fiance or damaged his stuff. : (22 votes)
    4 %
    I have locked myself in a room or bathroom. : (45 votes)
    9 %
    I have left the apartment or house during a fight. : (55 votes)
    11 %
    I have left and stayed the night somewhere else. : (9 votes)
    2 %
    I have called a friend/ family member in the middle of the night. : (12 votes)
    2 %
    I have taken pills or drunk excessively as a result of a fight. : (9 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    9532 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t ever actually yell (like raise my voice loudly) at my fiance during a fight but we definatley can exchange heated words. But I’ve never done any of the other things on the list. Thoughts of doing those things during a fight have really, honestly, just never even popped into my head. 

    Post # 5
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    8910 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I read this as “on a flight” and was like, You’ve done all that on a PLANE?!? Seems a little more normal now that I reread it.

    Post # 6
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    3119 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’ve sworn or yelled, called him offensive names (generally jackass or douchbag or asshole…really mature insults), I have cried hysterically, and I’ve left the house. Typically these things happen only for our worst fights, which are like once or twice a year. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    11734 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve done a couple of these.  Some of these would be deal-breakers for me – like, if you have to go drink or take pills because of a fight, that’s a major, major problem that needs to be worked out independent of the fight itself.  Yelling and cursing happens when you fight, but physically hurting yourself or someone else is a big problem to be worked out.

    Post # 9
    Member
    17 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @lolot:  i did exactly the same!! I was very confused!!

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    376 posts
    Helper bee

    If it’s a massive fight and I’m really crying a lot then I lock myself in the bathroom. I hate breaking down in front of anyone, even SO.

    Post # 12
    Member
    6747 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We only raise our voices- none of the other options.

    Post # 13
    Member
    8706 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’ve only sworn. We don’t yell, neither of us are yellers, but we swear like sailors.

    Post # 14
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    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t usually raise my voice, but I do curse like a sailor.  That’s pretty normal for me though, so it’d be weird if I didn’t do it during a fight.  And I’ve left the apartment and took the dog on a walk once or twice, but it was more because I needed to cool off and avoid yelling/throwing things/crying hysterically than just storming out. 

    Post # 15
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    7262 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’ve only cried hysterically on this list.

    Post # 16
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    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I have sworn and yelled (but more raised voices and moreso me than him) during a fight and cried hysterically. I have also thrown things, but not at my fiance, I was super pissed about something and I threw my phone at the wall. It ended up breaking the phone and the wall so I learned my lesson on that one! lol

    With my ex we would call each other names, swear, yell, throw things, and one of us would usually have to end up leaving. I wouldn’t go back to those days for anything!

     

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