Post # 1
I’m sure everyone on this board knows the monkeywrenches the military can throw in your plans! I’d love to start some discussion about what you had to change or compromise on, and what unanticipated things you’re really excited about!
I can get us started. Thanks to the Marine Corps, my fiance and I had to scrap our initial wedding plans entirely, and lost a venue deposit with it! We went from a leisurely engagement of 24 months, to DEPLOYMENT IN 8 MONTHS, WEDDING IN 6, FULL SPEED AHEAD! I feel so lucky that I was never the type to have my dream wedding planned out in my head, because boy, a Southern girl would have never pictured my very SoCal, military, San Diego wedding! I changed my initial color palette a little too to better complement his uniform. My fiance and all his groomsmen will be in uniform, and we’re doing a sword arch and cake-cutting with his mameluke. So basically, everything changed from a hometown affair to a local-for-us-cross-country-flight-for-everyone-else destination wedding, 3 months earlier than anticipated! Despite it all, I am so so grateful that my friends and family will still be able to come. It is my greatest concern that my FI’s Best Man, and one of my best friends in the world as well, won’t be able to make it because of his training schedule. It will be hard to put on a happy face and stay grateful for everything else if he can’t be there, but I’m trying to get my zen on!
Okay, your turn! How has the military changed your wedding plans?
Post # 3
We sent STDs for May but, when FI was able to go for training he desperately wanted, we pushed it back until August. It also limited our honeymoon plans because we couldn’t be away for too long.
DH was in uniform.
And a picture for good measure!
Post # 4
@aliavenue: What a beautiful picture! We’re not taking a honeymoon right after the wedding, we’re planning on holding off until he gets back from his deployment. I’ll be counting my lucky stars if we are able to have a traditional wedding without the deployment screwing it up, I’m not trying to also insert a trip in between as well! Where did you guys end up going?
Post # 5
@wubewe: Your experience is VERY similar to mine…
Our wedding was moved up like 6 months! DH’s deployment date was changed and we had to fix our payment plans to fit the new timeline. DH’s best friend couldn’t make it to the wedding and neither could his sister and brother in law 🙁
Our STD’s were for the original day so we had to let everyone know there was a change of plans.
Throw all that ontop of DH being forced to get a car and live off base and you have one messed up budget plan! DH originally took a bus or caught ride from a friend so we weren’t planning on getting him a car until later. However, when they told him he had to live off base he needed transportation fast!
It was hard but it worked out well in the end 🙂
Post # 6
@wubewe: We went for a 5 day trip to Destin, Florida. It was lovely!
Post # 7
Goodness, Payless, you are goooorrrgeous! I hope my makeup turns out half that good on the day of! FI’s deployment date has already creeped up a month, luckily we have some buffer time built in there, but it is definitely a fear of mine!
Post # 7
My fiance is currently reserves (active for 2, inactive for 2, wants to go active again) so we haven’t had the joy of rushing a wedding due to deployment 😛 however, I guess you could say we went through a bit of a..change.
We got engaged after a whopping 6 months and I’m from a really small town where barely anyone comes or leaves so everything is pretty cut and paste. As you might guess, I had no experience whatsoever with military except the stories my grandpa told me. So when I met my fiance and learned he was a marine I wasnt sure what to expect.
After getting engaged I was a happy little bird planning the wedding I had dreamt of. I’ll never forget the day I began talking about tuxes. There I was, jabbering on about styles and renting vs buying when he said ‘I’ll be wearing my dress blues’. That kinda threw me for a loop and I looked at him for a minute, trying to process that. A wedding with the groom not in a tux? Unheardof! At least, where I was from.
After a minute he looked at me uncomfortably and said (and bless his heart for doing so) ‘I can wear a tux if you’d like’. Don’t worry, of course I said no. I don’t want y’all to think that just because I was thrown off for a minute that I’m uncomfortable with his blues! I plan to be standing there, head held high, proud to be standing there and fully supporting my man and his uniform 😀
So my wedding plans were taken for quite a loop and I cringe to think how many ‘themes’ we went through. I made the mistake at first thinking we had to match his dress blues (commence the red white and blue wedding!), which wouldn’t have been bad, but I wanted something a bit more feminine.
So there’s my experience! I know it probably wasn’t the kind of response you were looking for, but I thought I’d share!
Post # 8
We got married on base, DH in uniform, chaplain performing the ceremony, military vendors, etc. So our wedding was very much influenced by the military, but it was still us.
The main monkey-wrench we got was the chaplain we originally got cancelled on us 3 weeks before the wedding due to his commitment to the base’s bowling team that was traveling. Seriously. We almost had to cancel at the last minute, but luckily someone else came through for us after a lot of begging. It all worked out though, we liked the second guy much better.
Post # 9
My husband is in the navy. Surprisingly the military did not affect out plans at all. We had a decent length for our engagement. We couldn’t have an 18-month engagement like originally planned but they gave him all the time off he requested. He even got to miss part of his deployment (submarine)!!
We went on a fairly long honeymoon to Dubai and the Maldives. He did not wear his dress uniform (he doesn’t like it at all) so our color scheme didn’t matter yet her.