How did DH react to pregnancy?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
4509 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@hisgirl10:  I have never been in this situation, but if you are pregnant, i wish all the best and i hope your DH reacts in a very loving and accepting way. 

Post # 4
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@hisgirl10:  If you really want kids someday, it probably won’t be much of issue.  Just a little shock and surprise before he accepts that he’s going to be a dad.

If you said he was iffy or uncertain about wanting kids, then it would be a different story.  My ex husband freaked when we had an unplanned pregnancy and it ultimately led straight to our divorce.  But he was iffy on having kids and me getting pregnant solidified that he didn’t want anymore kids (he had one with his ex before me.)

Good luck!  I hope everything works out for you.

Post # 5
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

DH and I were not really trying to conceive (well I was charting and we were avoiding fertile days). We got a little careless like.. 5 days before I ovulated and I ended up pregnant.

Now, we both had baby fever, so my situation was a little different. We were both elated to be expecting. It did come at an inconvient time, as we were supossed to be getting married in September, and I got pregnant in January..

There was some worry along the way, but I think that’s normal no matter what the situation. My DH was very supportive, and excited! In the end, it couldn’t have happened at a better time!


Good luck! If you are infact pregnant, I hope your DH reacts positively…if you aren’t pregnant, maybe you need to have a conversation with him about the “what if’s!”

Post # 7
1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We weren’t TTCing and the baby is actually a honeymoon baby, well wedding night baby…We wanted to wait at least 2 years. So I was definitely nervous about telling him. He was over the moon when I did though! We’ve always wanted children someday…so I guess someday is now! 🙂 Good luck telling him! And congrats! He might be in shock so give him a little space if needed!

Post # 8
1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My DH knew I was pregnant before I even told him, and we weren’t even together thst long. I was so nervous to tell him thst I had distanced myself from him for about a week before hand. And finally he said to me “listen, I know you’re pregnant, it’s either that or you’re breaking up with me, which I don’t believe to be true, so will you just tell me so we can talk about it. I’m happy about it!”

Anyway, obviously thst won’t be the case with a lot of couples, but my point is that he could surprise you by being more excited/happy then you expect.

And it’s none of your MIL’s business you’re a grown, married woman. This is up to you and your DH.

Post # 9
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I got pregnant a month before our wedding. We were planning to wait around 6 months before trying. I was off of birth control for about 3 months before the wedding also. The month before the wedding, we weren’t being very careful about using the ‘pull and pray’ method… and we DID slack quite a bit, I consider it NTNP, since most of the month we didn’t pull out at all! My cycles aren’t quite regular and a little bit longer then normal, so I was on cycle day 42 when I tested, and I was convinced I wasn’t pregnant. He checked the stick for me (this is what we’ve done any other time) and the look on his face said everything he wasn’t saying. But, within hours you could see him perking up, and he started kissing my belly. He told me the next day, when I asked how he was feeling “You know, it was a shock that it happened so fast, and I DID want to wait a few more months, but at the end of the day, what’s a few months?” (I think we were both feeling the same way too! It was a huge shock that it could happen the first ‘not not try’ and before the wedding!)
I’m 15+5 today, and we are both SO SO SO excited to be parents in may! 

Post # 10
1549 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If it makes you feel any better, i really don’t anticipate my husband to be anything but shocked and scared – even once to do start trying. I’m sure he’ll be excited eventually but I just “know” that hes going to be more nervous and freaked out that its real then anything else…. Take a test and if you get a BFP – let us know how he takes it!

Post # 12
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@urchin:  How did people react to your pregnancy before your wedding?

Post # 13
352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I recently found out I am pregnant and while we weren’t trying, we knew that on 2 occasions we weren’t exactly careful.

I was nervous to tell him but when I did his eyes filled with tears and he was shocked but mostly through the roof happy.

Good luck to you! The shock wears away quickly and joy starts to set in 🙂

Post # 14
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@hisgirl10:  Don’t judge him based on his gut reaction. Shock can make people say/react in odd ways.  Give him some time to adjust, but hopefully it won’t take long for him to get into daddy mode.

And if you are pregnant, CONGRATS!

Post # 15
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We weren’t trying (yet) but I knew he was ready.  In fact, I went off BCP and told him he needed to make sure to pull out until after the wedding at least…but he did not do so the first time (he didn’t even make an attempt).  I really didn’t think that one time would get me pregnant, especially 2 weeks off BCP that I had been on for 16 years.  He was absolutely thrilled when I told him.  I was in complete shock though because I didn’t expect it!

If he wants kids I think he will be fine.

Post # 16
282 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My DH and I found out we were pregnant a few weeks after our honeymoon so it was a complete shock. 

When I told DH he wouldnt believe me until he heard it from a doctor (the 8 at home tests werent good enough SMH) So we went to the doctor where he confirmed and Im guessing DH dealt with his fears alone because at 1st we didnt talk about it for a few days then we talked this weekend and he expressed his happiness. Not with the timing but hes happy now. 

I think as long as your DH wants kids in the future he will be happy with one now.

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