This is a topic thats been on my mind lately. My FI and I moved to a large city about 3hrs away from the smaller town we lived in when we met. The only people we know here are our coworkers, needless to say we don’t hang out with them often outside of work. A lot of my friends from the town prior have kids and its hard to find times to talk, so we end up texting or sending fb messages, just not the same thing.
FI and I have had recent talks about our social life. He doesn’t want or need friends, so he says. He has them and talking to them once every 3 months works for him. He also plays video games on our Xbox One and has friends on there he talks to everyday. He has no real desire to meet anyone new.
I, on the other hand, am in desperate need of something more to my life. I love being with him, obviously, or we wouldn’t be getting married. I love that we can just be homebodies, he can play video games, I can read, cook, or knit and watch tv and be totally happy with that. Yet, once in awhile I want some other kind of interaction. Something. We have no family close by either, 3hr drive is the closest. So, i have told him I need friends, and he is supportive, yet has a different opinion.
I have recently taken up running as a hobby so I’m going to see if there are any running groups I could join in the area and meet up and run with them once a week or so. I would love a gym membership to have another social outlet but we have decided it’ll be cheaper for us in the long run to buy weights for our home. I am really not interested in something like a book club, though i like reading. A lot of things cost money too which is another factor, of course.
I guess I’ve gotten a little off topic here. We are not married yet, but our move has separated me from my friends and its really tough. I’ve moved a lot in my adult life due to my career, so I’m used to it a little bit, but the older I get, the tougher it is to make friends. Especially since we do not want to do the bar/drinking/club scene. That’s always been a way i’ve met people in the past. In fact I met my FI at a bar!! LOL! We are trying to be healthier and have no real interest in drinking any more.
If anyone has any advice on where to meet people or what activities are good to meet people at, that would be nice to know. Otherwise, i guess i just vented a whole bunch, sorry, i didnt mean to hijack your thread! My advice to other bees, is stay close to your friends no matter what!!!!!