When we got engaged, we knew it would be awhile before we actually got married, mainly because of finances.
My fiance had a lot of debt from stupid mistakes he made years ago, a 6 month long stretch on unemployment, and also a big medical bill. So it took him awhile to recover.
And I knew that I needed to get a new/better paying job before we could even think about planning a wedding.
It’s taken nearly 2 years, but we’re finally making it work. Thankfully, my parents have offered to pay for the food, which will be around $6,000. Me and my fiance are paying for everything else and also buying a house (hopefully this coming spring), so we just have to plan well and be really careful.
The long engagement has made planning much easier and less stressful and because we have so much time before the wedding, we can pay vendors in small increments instead of huge, giant payments. Having so much time between our engagement and wedding has also given me tons of time to do EXTRA research for vendors. Admittedly, when I first started looking for a venue, DJ, photographer, etc., I thought we were NEVER going to be able to afford ANYTHING. But if you dig a little deeper and spend a little extra effort searching for quaity that fits your budget, it IS doable.
And you also have to make sure you aren’t paying for things that are absurdly expensive and not really necessary. Obviously these things differ for each person, but when planning, you have to think: “what do I want more? A limo or flowers?” Sometimes you have to pick one or the other. And eliminate little things like monogrammed napkins, personalized aisle runners, and over-blown decorations.
It is entirely possible to have a wedding that fits your budget. Just worry about planning a day that will be fun and meaningful to you and your fiance, NOT planning an event that everyone will drool over and talk about for years. The point of this day is NOT to impress other people.
Just have fun, be yourself, stick to your budget, plan wisely, and TAKE YOUR TIME!