Post # 1
As in, how did you decide which people to put together at what in table?
Did you keep ‘groups’ (e.g. cousins, your friends, his friends) that know each other already together, or did you mix it up to encourage people to mix and get to know the others?
I can’t wait to do the seating plan – such a geek! (hurry up and RSVP!! Oh wait… I should’ve had the invites out last week… oops). I think I want to mix it up a bit, while putting suitable people together age/stage-wise (e.g. under-agers, college partiers, slightly more mature young working adults). Is that the standard way to do it? Or is there a better way?
Post # 3
Keep groups that know each other. I HATE going to a funtion and getting put with people I dont know when 2 tables over is someone I know really well. It’s more comfortable for everyone.
Post # 4
What about if we put 2-3 people who get on well at a table with several other people who we *think* they’d get on well with (all of whom know at least one other person well)? Would that be enough to keep them relaxed and having a good night do you think?
Post # 5
I think this could be a good idea as long as you provide some kind of icebreaker or games that encourage people to mix and get to know each other – there’s lots of good ideas for things like this at the Martha Stewart Weddings website.
Post # 6
I would say always have at least half the table know eachother?
I was at a wedding recently with my SO and his family, and his little sister got placed with the parents and older folk, while we had our table with some cousins, which was fine, but this one girl who was extremely quiet, and didn’t know any of us. It was rather awkward, and the whole table ended up like, splitting up and sitting at other tables anyways.
Post # 7
We put people together who knew each other as much as possible. There were about 10 people left over that didn’t really know anyone else there, and we put these people at tables with really outgoing people who we thought they’d get along with.
We came up with three different potential arrangements before deciding on our final one. We were trying to find the perfect seating arrangement, and I think we got as close as we could.
Post # 8
DEFINITELY am grouping people together that know each other or are friends. I am separating out families (ie: adult parents and adult children).
Post # 9
I think it’s hard to mix unless you have some sort of acitivity or ice breaker. We won’t have time for that so I’m just going to group by those who know one another or are in the same circle of friends.
Post # 10
We are definitely trying to put people who know each other together — and where that’s not possible ensure they know at least some people on their table. I think the ‘know at least half the people on the table’ rule is a good one.
We’ve had a few not-great experiences, including one where a group of 6 friends were broken up — we were luckily in the remaining group of 4, but they had to leave early due to their baby so we were left on a table knowing no-one else, which was a bit awkward. And a recent one where not only did we not know anyone else on the table, we didn’t speak the same language as some of them!
I don’t think weddings are a place for social engineering and trying to get different groups of your friends and families to strike up friendships. I want my guests to have a really great time, and I know that will be easier for them if they’re sitting with people they know and like to spend time with.
Post # 11
my whole thing with seating is parents should be with parents….um with us being an interracial couple…if we seat ppl with ppl they know real well…then it looks like we have a racial divide at our wedding reception so this is something we definitely have to hash out.
Post # 12
We’re going to try to take a bit of both. With two long tables, each sitting about 25, it will basically come down to the closest 4-5 ppl. Our plan is that everyone should know at least 2 of the people next to/opposite them really well, and not know the other 2 as well – but they’ll be around the same age/have similar interests and such. Hope it’ll work out.
Post # 13
We actually asked family members what they would prefer…being seated with adult siblings or adult parents with their adult children. We had at our table (MOB) my 3 siblings and spouses and my Dad. All of my nieces & nephews were seated with their own siblings & spouses/SO’s. We did the same for the groom’s side. All friends were seated with friends, and the few odd couples who really knew no one else were grouped together.
I personally think its both uncomfortable & awkward to be placed with people you don’t know, but sometimes is unavoidable. Weddings go by so quickly some may not be bothered by it at all. One thing I did notice was that once dinner was over,some of my daughter’s friends took some chairs to another table set up for ten……there were at least 15 people squeezed in!
I’ve never been to a wedding where ‘games’ were played. I think if that were the case I might be spending more time on the dance floor. lol
Post # 14
I’m so glad I have a cocktail reception! I made a seating chart for the RD and it has caused I-can’t-tell-you-how-much drama!
Post # 15
We are putting his parents faaaaar away from each other because they are divorced and havent seen each other in years, and everyone else we will be seat together as family and friends so everyone will feel comfy and happy
Post # 16
We’re probably doing open seating unless I can find the time to seat people.