How did you ask people to be bridesmaids

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
49 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Old Courthouse - Cleveland

I know there are a lot of cute ideas on and Pinterest. However, it was between sending flowers or a spa basket. I went with the spa basket. I filled the basket up with bath products and they loved them! 

Post # 3
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I just either called or email/texted them to see if they wanted to be bridesmaids.  I think the whole “Will you be my bridesmaid” package is a little too cutesey for me.  My friends and I are in our late 20s and early 30s.

Post # 4
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I gave/sent each girl a spoon with a cute package of tea, and the spoon was etched to say the girl’s name and, “will you be my bridesmaid/maid of honour?”

The girls all loved them and use the spoons for their tea now!

Oh, and I got the spoons from etsy.

Post # 5
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I gave them wire hangers with the words bridesmaid and maid of honor written and the made a handkerchief that said “will you be my ..” to cover the wire. 

Post # 6
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I sent them a bottle of perfume called “Thinking of You” by Mary Kay, and a card with a poem.

Post # 7
18 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I sent each of the girls a card with a letter about how important their friendship is to me and a bottle of wine with a little poem on it asking them to be my bridesmaid or maid of honor.  I bought the labels on Etsy.  They loved them and one friend called me crying!  Here’s a picture of the card, wine bottle with label, and the wine bottle holder I got to help protect them since they were all shipped.  

Post # 8
1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Diamondgurl:  Same here. I asked the ones that lived close by in person, and the rest I asked on the phone. One of my “attendants” is male, so the whole “Would you be my bridesmaid” thing would have been really awkward anyways, and I wanted to make sure we could sit down and talk about whether he would be comfortable doing it anyways, because freaking him out even more with some grand gesture.

Post # 9
10 posts
  • Wedding: August 2015

I made these and surprised my maids with them!    

Post # 10
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

cbj9:  I did a box. On the box in big letters were their name. And in smaller writing off to the side on the bottom was “will you be my”. Then they would open the box, undo the ribbon and sitting on top was a black shirt with a ‘bridesmaid’ diamonte iron on attached. Then they would take out the shirt, and underneath was a necklace with their first initial and a pearl, a bottle of their favourite perfume, a nail polish and a handwritten letter(containing little jokes and things relevant to each girl)

Post # 11
4591 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I wish I would have taken pics of what I had given my MOH and bridesmaid (we’re only having 2 on each side – small wedding)… but I did not.

For both, I bought cards from Etsy that asked the question. My MOH is my sister, so that one was more personalized to say “sister”. Along with that was a small bottle of champagne, a lip gloss, and a nail polish in the closest blue I could find. I put it all in a box and wrapped it in twine.

I gave my sister hers this weekend, and my bridesmaid (future SIL) hers last night. Both loved the gifts and way it was asked! My sister said she just assumed, but I still thought it would be nice to do something for them.

Post # 12
8390 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I bridesmaids were long distance, so I sent them little gift packages with jewelry (all DIY)

Post # 13
9859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

cbj9:  My sister assumed (and were right) and therefore I didn’t really do anything to ask them.  One girl I asked via skype and the other I asked when we went out for lunch while I was in her town for a visit.  I didn’t do anything special.

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