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    IndianPrincess    25.04.09   Toronto,ON

    This week I got to ask most my bridesmaids to be bridesmaids! This was so exciting for me b/c it took a lot to get my FI to buy into the idea to have a bridal party since its not common for South Asian weddings.

     

    I asked them by presenting them a cute card and a poem for each with a nice silver bangle with rhinestones! My bridesmaids are all so precious to me so I wanted to do something special for them. 

    How did you ask your BMs? or what are you doing special for them?

     
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    karieck05      

    So glad you get to have the bridal party you wanted!

    I asked the out of towners with a card that I made. I found a pix that we had taken together and then mounted it on paper and put at the top, "Will You Be My Bridesmaids". Then I wrote something mushy inside! ;-)

    But for the local girls I made a tiny banner in Illustrator and wrapped it around a tookpick. Then stuck that in a cupcake from a local yummy bakery and asked them that way.

    I'm the last out of my friends to get married so coming up with something different started to prove difficult!

     
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    mainebride08      

    I bought my bridesmaids a headband, attached a note that said "will you head down the aisle with me?" and included a personal note about how honored I'd be if they accepted and how much they mean to me.

    I also asked them to take a picture with the headband on and email it to me to "accept" my invitation. I then put them on my wedding website for the bridal party.

    My original thought was to say "will you help me keep my head on straight?" :)

     
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    AOEBuckeye    June 26, 2010   Alpharetta, Georgia

    All my gals are spread out around the country, so I picked up small decorated hat boxes, filled them with ring pops (so I could "propose" to my gals cause they were jealous I was the first getting married of our bunch) in my wedding colors, made a hand-made card with a mushy poem and asked them to be my maids. 

     
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    ange1xwedding    03/28/09   New York

    omg.. mainebride08, I LOVE your idea!!!  That's so cute!

     
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    MissKitty    August 31, 2008  

    Wow I feel like a slacker...My bridesmaids are scattered around the country so I just called them up to ask and told them how much it would mean to me.

     
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    lanny9    in loving memory of my angel   Los Angeles

    I put together a bridesmaid survivor kit (so to speak).  In it, I placed a compact mirror, a measuring tape (for their measurements for the bridesmaid dresses, each will get two), a chart that they can put their measurements down on, a pen to write with, a little canvas pouch for their makeup or whatever they want.  I also include a picture of the bridesmaid dress I had picked out.  In my rush, I forgot the cards I made address to each one personally that gave them reasons why I had chosen them (mushy stuff).  The box is the best part I think, it was really pretty, but an empty box didn't give it too much depth.  They loved the bridesmaid box!

     
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    Sweeney2Be    Aug 23, 2008   Twin Cities Minnesota

    I wish I would have thought of something cute like this - I just asked them one by one, the last one I asked has been in so many weddings that I said "Got room in your closet for one more dress you'll never wear again?" She laughed and of course said "Yes"

    My maids are all so different that I asked them in person in a way that suited them. Except my sister, because of the jib jab, poke fun relationship we have I just said "You the MOH....k?!" and she said "Yep whatever" LOL. Sounds really lame but if you knew my sister and I you;d know it was right on key for us bossing each other around our whole lives.

     

     
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    MissPang-uin    July 19, 2008   Orange County, CA

    I purchased some shiny pink boxes, then I put three compartments into them, the left one contained a barbie doll, with my hair color and hair do (yeah... cutting barbie's hair was interesting...), holding a little sign that said "Will you be my bridesmaid <3 Linda". On the right side, I split it into 2 compartments, one had a pink cupcake, and the other had a little booklet I sewed together by hand. The first page told them to contact me with their highly anticipated answer, the second page told them to enjoy their cupcake, the third page gave them an email address I had signed up for them, along with the password. When they signed in, they each found a long email I had I sent them on why I asked them to be my bridesmaid. It also contained a questionnaire that they were to send to each other so that those who didn't already know each other could get an idea of who the other person was. Oh and on the outside of each, I made a little name plaque and dotted the i's with rhinestones.

     
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    rebecca    September 13, 2008  

    miss panguin, can you post the questionnaire (if it's not too long or too personal)? that sounds like an awesome idea!

     
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    MissPang-uin    July 19, 2008   Orange County, CA

    Hi Rebecca,

     Totally, I'll dig it up sometime this weekend. Sorry, I would have responded sooner, but I didn't know I got a response :-D

     
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    Daria    05.24.09   New York

    WOW those are AMAZING ideas! If it's ok, i'd love to use the bridesmaid box idea. It's sounds like SO much fun!

     

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    lanny9    in loving memory of my angel   Los Angeles

    Daria, its really easy too!  I didn't want to spend too much on it, so it worked out well since each box literally cost me 8 bucks..$32 total!  I did get items where I didn't have to spend money on (pen, print out of model of bridesmaid dress, etc.).  If you haven't decided on the particular dress, print out different ones you are considering and have them decide on it.  I "stole" the measuring tapes from IKEA and the round mirror compact case I bought from Ross for 2 bucks each.  Get a small box so you don't have to buy or make a ton of things to fill it! =)  Have fun!

     
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    haselwand    12/20/08   Indiana/Las Vegas

    Love the box idea!  I've been trying to come up with a way to pass out measuring tapes that is cute and that is it!

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    staceyb    may 10, 2008   los angeles

    my BMs are my FI's two sisters (we're keeping the wedding party small, and i don't have any sisters, and they have become like sisters to me) and i wanted to do something special... the older sister was talking with my FI and it kinda slipped out that she was a BM... the younger sister didn't know though. so on new year's eve, which i spent with his family, i presented each girl with a pair of earrings in colors i know they like, that i bought on etsy for $12 a pair. i also made them each a card in the wedding colors, which said "will you be my bridesmaid?" on the front, and inside i wrote them a note explaining how much i've loved getting to know them, and how i'd be honored if they would be my bridesmaids. :) they loved it, and the younger sister (she's 13) was THRILLED to be asked. :)

     
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    briannie    mach 15, 2009   oc, ca

    miss kitty-- i did the same thing you did...except i only had one out-of-state girl.

     
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    GetMarried4Less    November 1st, 2008   SC

    Thanks ladies!!!

     i just bought some Martha Stewart gold invites and a rubber stamp but have went no further bc i wasn't sure what to do next.....this has spawned some great ideas!

     i'll be getting whatever i come up with into the mail this week.

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    I only had a MOH. I asked her to brunch, and gave her a DVD of all of the Friends wedding episodes. On the back, I had taped a card with a photo of a dress, and written, "Will you be my MOH?"

     
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    daviddmcclain    December 31, 2011   las vegas

    this works either way...

     

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TpcbKjpb6Bk

     
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    southernbride10    June 4, 2011   South Carolina

    I designed these cards and mailed them (excuse the phone pictures)! The girls LOVED them. Then we sent these funny cards to the groomsmen. I pasted each of their faces in the tux--

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    MsJ26    May 12, 2012  

    My BM pretty much invited themselves LOL. They are my sisters and we are all really close so it was a given and they know how much I love em already :). Although I will do something cute for them later on...

     
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    Donnica22    August 27, 2011   Marietta, GA

    I made cards that had a picture of me with each girl. I need to download the pics!!! :)

     
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    kostahowsk    June 26, 2011  

    My bridesmaids were spread out all around the world this summer, but I wanted to ask them right away so I created a little "movie" for each girl.  I created slides in photoshop and then used PhotoStory3 to set them to music. 

    Here's what the 'slides' were -
    1 - 'I'm getting married!' (Photoshopped picture of me in a wedding dress)
    2 - '& everything about that day will be perfect'
    3 - 'But what could make it even better?'
    4 - 'YOU!' (photoshopped picture of bridesmaid in a hideous dress) & 'Okay, but I won't make you wear this dress'
    5 - Photomontage of me + bm
    6 - 'NAME, will you be my bridesmaid?'
    It sounds kind of silly, but they turned out adorable!!

    I'll try to attach one :)  I emailed them to my girls and it didn't take long for all 6 to call me and excitedly accept!

     
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    kostahowsk    June 26, 2011  

    My bridesmaids were spread out all around the world this summer, but I wanted to ask them right away so I created a little "movie" for each girl.  I created slides in photoshop and then used PhotoStory3 to set them to music. 

    Here's what the 'slides' were -
    1 - 'I'm getting married!' (Photoshopped picture of me in a wedding dress)
    2 - '& everything about that day will be perfect'
    3 - 'But what could make it even better?'
    4 - 'YOU!' (photoshopped picture of bridesmaid in a hideous dress) & 'Okay, but I won't make you wear this dress'
    5 - Photomontage of me + bm
    6 - 'NAME, will you be my bridesmaid?'
    It sounds kind of silly, but they turned out adorable!!

    I'll try to attach one :)  I emailed them to my girls and it didn't take long for all 6 to call me and excitedly accept!

     
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    kostahowsk    June 26, 2011  

    Eek, so I can't attach videos but I'll attach a few pics of the slides :)

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    Novemberfriends    February 13, 2013  

    @kostahowsk: awww I love this!!!!!!!!!

     
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    frmrgrl3    April 28, 2012  

    As each girl meant alot to me I wanted to make sure that they knew by making personalized gifts for each one.  So I made them each a box according to their personality and what they liked to do.  I then made cards with a poem on the back of them.  I did the cards in my wedding colors.  Inside the boxes I put a cute compact mirror with a chapstick and a lip gloss.How did you ask your bridesmaids? :  wedding bridesmaids bm friends how to ask Names On The Side

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