How did you choose a date?

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Tanleggedjuliet:  some people picks eomthing like 2/2/12 or the date they met or thier dating anniversary or some i hear like to pick their parents anniversary. i always thought we would have a winter wedding because my DH and his family work threw the summer months. its the buisiest. so when he said he wanted to do it in the spring i was surprised. you should consult with him and your families. his uncle already would be up here in alaska so we worked it around other people schedules. we ended up picking may. then seen what the slowest time (for work) of that month would be and picked may 10th! everyone has their own reasons for picking one and ours was actually convienance for us and the families. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Tanleggedjuliet:  What season do you see yourself getting married in? Start there and use that as a jumping off point. Then consider what part of that season is most cooperative for a wedding and select dates from there. Once you have it narrowed down, you can begin checking with desired venues about openings.

For example, I’ve always wanted a winter wedding and saw myself getting married in late December or early January. We played around with ideas and my DH suggest New Years Eve because it would be fun to start the new year married and celebrate each full calendar year as a married year. We were married NYE Dec. 2013. 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We love fall and everything about halloween.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would say start with a general season and month you like. From there, it’ll depend on what days your venue is available.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Bartram's Garden

My hubby-to-be and I are somewhat non-traditional.  We too were overwhelemed with the many options (summer is nice; winter is pretty; spring is romantic…).  The final decision honestly came down to a couple of key points.  First, we wanted to have an outdoor wedding, and felt that was an important detail to start planning around.  Since we wanted to be outside, I was also focused on a season that wouldn’t make me melt in my bridal wear, and that didn’t have a high chance of humidity (hair probs!).  After that, i searched the farmer’s almanac for statistically clear days, and then picked a day that had a certain ring to it–our wedding date is 10-4-14 (ten-four!). 

Hope that helps!  When all else fails, go with your gut instinct!  What season brings up the most romantic memories of you and your partner? 

Best of luck 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Tanleggedjuliet:  I’m Chinese, so I had to choose an “auspicious” date that gave us enough time to save, but that was hopefully soon enough for my father in law to attend (he was diagnosed with cancer and unfortunately didn’t make our wedding).  Other than that, you may want to consider what flowers are in season if you have something in mind already.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

We knew we wanted to be engaged around a year, so we looked at one year out…May 2014, started looking at venues and then picked our date based on when our favorite venues were available. So we didn’t pick an exact date first, we picked an approximate time “May 2014” or even “Spring 2014” had we needed to then looked an venues and asked when they were still available.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

We just chose a date about 6-7 months after our engagement date. We didn’t want to be engaged longer than 6 months. And April 7th was the date that worked out for immediate family, out of the 3 dates that we chose around the six month mark. We were choosing between March 31st, April 7th, and April 14th. March 31st ended up being Easter Sunday. And my grandparents had already planned an expensive vacation for the weekend of the 14th. So I guess that made the decision easy. Haha.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We knew the season and the city in which we wanted to get married. It’s a college town (Big 10 school) and we’re getting married in the fall, so we knew we needed to be cognisant of any home football games, both because of traffic and hiked-up hotel fares. Our first-choice date (for no particular reason other than it was one of 2 days in the month which there wasn’t a home game) was booked at almost every single venue we looked into, so we ended up with our 2nd choice. It also happens to be a bye-week, so we won’t have to worry about missing any games due to our wedding, either. 😛

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Unless you have a specific date in mind, I’d choose the venue and pick a date based on their availability. I was planning for May or September of 2015 but there was limited availability and since I chose an outdoor venue, doing it in the summer made more sense. So i picked one of the 3 available dates the venue had left for summer 2015.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We had a quick engagement, we got engaged in December and knew we wanted a spring wedding. We didn’t plan anything until after the holidays, so in January we went and looked at venues. After looking at several, we found the one we wanted and asked them what dates were available for that spring. We knew we wanted a Saturday wedding b/c it would be easier for out of town people to travel. So, we started with “What saturdays do you have available this spring?” (which was only 2, one at the beginning of Feb -way too quick for us to plan anything- and one in the middle of April. So we picked the April one.

We also had family things that helped us narrow it down. SIL’s bro was getting married that spring so we steered clear of his date. My sisters graduation was in May so we left May for her….

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Tanleggedjuliet:  I’ve always wanted to be a “June bride”. Also I don’t want to worry about inclement weather (not that I can control or predict New England weather ever). I’m also a school teacher and wanted to do it after the school year but not in the middle of summer.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I wanted a spring wedding, but I also wanted to kind of keep our exisiting anniversary..which is July 16th.. My fiance and I met in may so we picked may 16th, which was perfect because it fell on a saturday…A bonus is that when I was looking through old Facebook posts, I found that he and I went on our first day on May 17th..I love the fact that 4 years later we’ll be on our honeymoon on the anniversary of our first date.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Tanleggedjuliet:  We had a certain time frame in mind – late May-early June because of my FI’s work schedule. Our other option was August, but as we were already having a long engagement, we didn’t want to make it any longer.

When we fell in love with our venue, they only had two dates remaining for the entire summer of 2015 – one in early June, like we wanted, and one at the end of July. 

We chose the June date and now we love it – it’s 6/6 and our ceremony is at 6 PM. 6 is my FI’s favorite number (and yes, we’re aware of the 666 thing), so that was an added bonus.

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