Post # 1
Hey bees, I need your help! I am debating with myself if I would like to have bridesmaids at my wedding. My FI would like to have his brothers, a good friend, and his sponsor as his groomsmen but I don’t have super duper close BFF type friends right now…however here would be my options:
My really good friend/roommate moved to Maine this summer (but we have lost a lot of contact so how would that work?) I have one friend who I see maybe once a month, I have a local sister, and my FI sister and his teenage daughter
(If I decided to have BM would that mean I’d have to have my other sister who I see every few years in the bridal party?)
So I’m wondering: how did you select your BM? Do they add a bunch of extra cost to your wedding budget? Are they local BM? Anything else I didn’t mention?
This topic was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by mandipandi.
Post # 2
My bridesmaids are family only. It was important to me that I incorporate our families since they have been very supportive of us.
That had me at 4 girls standing up there with me. The most I wanted was 1 or 2 more, but I really didn’t want to rank my friends against each other for those spots (nor could I coordinate a 10-girl bridal party) – so I am also asking a cousin to round out the number of groomsmen my FI wanted. I had initially been on the fence, but am happy I am going that route since it is meaning much more to her than I could have imagined (they have a lot of changes going on in her family and I underestimated how much “feeling included” would mean to her right now).
I have one friend in particular who seemed a little sad I didn’t ask her – but I think she understands the “family only” part. I’m going to be asking her to still have a role in the festivities since she’s been there for me and great these past few years. That was a tough convo but when I explained it, I think she understands now.
Post # 3
One thing that I think makes it a lot easier: Your sides don’t have to be even. And you can have men on your side and women on his side. Whatever works for you!
I think including one sister but excluding the other could be tricky. Maybe talk to your close sister about it?
We basically went with all family. His side: his 2 brothers, his SIL he’s known since he was 4, his close friend who was his other SIL’s sister’s wife (she wore a suit). My side: My sister, my best friend since we were 2, my brother, and his other SIL. And we had a couple ushers of both genders who are also family.