how did you choose your doctor/midwife?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

cmeeks:  Congrats!!! I first decided I wanted to give birth at a birth center with midwives instead of a hospital. I looked online at birth centers near where we live (there were several). I checked out their websites and picked one. I liked that all the midwives there are certified, and most were labor and delivery nurses as well. They did a tour/meet and greet visit with me to see if I liked the birth center and to ask me some questions to see if the birth center would be a good fit for us. My husband and I both liked it so we scheduled my first real appointment for 11.5 weeks. I’m 38 weeks now and have loved the care I’ve received! I feel very comfortable and confident in my choice. The center is also just five minutes from a hospital if something were to go wrong. Good luck to you!!!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I didn’t have a obgyn or midwife so I first started out by asking people who they had or liked and then I would look up online reviews of them. I decided based on the online reviews and set up my first appt with an obgyn..I really liked him and decided that’s who I would go with for my pregnancy…well at around 6 months pregnant he completely pulled a switcharoo on me and started saying he doesn’t support natural births and went against everything I had written in my birth plan which by the way I showed him at my very second visit! Ugh I was in tears so I again got to online reviews for midwives this time and made sure my insurance covered it…if u call ur insurance they will give u a list of drs. I switched at 6 months pregnant which was hard but it was the best decision ever. I loved my midwife and had the completely natural childbirth I wantEd with no interventions. I say start w online reviews and then go meet them but I’d have a birth plan written to show them  and make sure they agree with what you want up front! Good luck! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Also… If you have a specific hospiTal or birth center in mind you can call there and get a list of drs and midwives that deliver there. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I watched a lot of documentaries and read a lot of books and knew that I wanted a midwife over an OBGYN.  So then I started online research and tried to find midwives and birth centers in my area.  Unfortunately, there wasn’t a whole lot close to me.  So I made an appointment with a birth advisor at a local, progressive hospital.  The meeting was free and she talked to me about what I wanted, what my concerns were, etc.  Then she recommended various OBs and midwives that deliver at that hospital.  I made an appointment with one and interviewed her thoroughly (my first appointment lasted over 2 hours).  She was very nice and I liked all her answers, so now I have a midwife!

Don’t be afraid to ask questions.  If you don’t like the answer, don’t be afraid to find someone else.  I had an OB at first and my initial appointment with her was AWFUL.  I knew I couldn’t stay with her.  Now that I’ve found my midwife, I am SOO happy that I didn’t give up and stay with the original OB.  Besides finding a hospital with a birth advisor that you can talk to, you can also go to your insurance website and find a provider that way.  But I really liked the inside knowledge that the birth advisor had.  She openly told me that some of the OB groups refused to deliver on weekends, so if I went into labor, an OB from a different group would deliver my baby.  That essentially meant that a stranger would be delivering my baby and I was NOT okay with that.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

cmeeks:  I actually felt more comfortable with a man as my dr to begin with, I purposely chose a man as my obgyn. However, I ended up with my midwife Cathy and couldn’t be happier with her and am now waaaay more comfortable with having a woman as after labor I have had a lot of awkward female questions I would have felt odd bringing up to a man who although does it for a living has never gone through it himself. I’d really suggest looking into midwives if you are leaning towards natural..in my experience it was two completely diff worlds and I know I wouldn’t have had the birth I wanted had a stayed with my original obgyn.   He was a nice guy but i wanted him to be excited for a natural birth like I was and he just wasn’t. It’s nice to have everyone on your and your baby’s team working towards what you want! I wouldn’t have had the strength to try and fight with my obgyn during labor if he wanted to do an intervention. With mymidwife she handled all the nurses and told them we wouldn’t be using any of that when they mentioned things. You can call ur insurance and ask for what midwives are covered. I hope you find someone you really end up loving. Good luck again

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

cmeeks:  I think if you really want a natural birth and are healthy and low-risk, a birth center with midwives is a great option! I love knowing that we are all on the same page in regards to a birth plan. They also offered birth and breastfeeding classes, which I 100% recommend, it was so worth it. Anyway, I started by typing in the name of the city closest to me (we live in a small town about 45 minutes away from it) and “birth center.” You could also try typing in “midwife” or “midwifery.” Best of luck to you!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I looked up which doctors were covered by my insurance company and from there started looking up online reviews and checking which doctors had late hours (I wanted my husband to be able to come to all appointments without having to take time from work). We love our doctor 🙂 good luck and congrats on the baby 🙂

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