Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall
I’ve always been the type of girl who hung around with the guys, not the girls. My fi has chosen his four groomsmen, but I’ve been only able to select two bridesmaids. I’m at a loss!
A lot of the girls I’m closest to, we have really only talked online (one lives near me, one used to live near me, and one never has) for the most part. So I’m seirously at a loss, I don’t know what to do! One girl I wanted to ask all of a sudden stopped speaking like we used to (she’s my cousin’s wife)..
Post # 3
@GingerSnapped19: I am similar, I have more male friends than female friends. I’ll probably have 1 or 2 bridesmen
Post # 4
There are many things you can do;
1. You don’t need to match sides. How cute would it be for each girl to be accompanied by two guys?
2. Ask guy friends to stand with you. Gender shouldn’t limit those people you want standing with you on your big day.
3. Does your FH have any sisters/cousins/close girl friends who you lwould like to become closer with? Asking them to be a part of your wedding party is a great olive branch to start your life as a married couple.
Hooe this helps!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
Me too! My friends are all guys! It was really tough to choose four to match his. I am going with my brother as my “Man of honor”, his sister, a mutual friend who is local, and a high school friend who I haven’t had too much contact with over the years. The high school friend was the tough choice. I really wanted to have the same amount as him so the photos looked balanced and there are so many cute photos I want to do that really need 3 girls.
Post # 6
Me and two other girlfriends were groomsladies in our best guy friend’s wedding 🙂 We wore simple black dresses and stood on HIS side.
It was too cute for words, and we loved it because we ARE his best friends! why shouldn’t we be in his wedding! He had one other guy friend and his brother as his best man.
We had a great time and it was really fun and unique.
I would recommend looking into having bridesmen 🙂 Maybe have them wear vests or ties in your bridesmaid colors, while the groomsmen only wear white or black, to make them stand apart
Post # 7
@GingerSnapped19: I picked people I’m very close to from all areas of my life. My MOH has been my best friend since 7th grade, my first bridesmaid is a great friend from college, my second bridesmaid is a good work friend and mutual friend of FI and mine, my first bridesman is my brother from another mother close friend since elementary school, and my second bridesman is a good friend from high school who’s always been there for me.
Post # 8
His sisters and my best friend. They just all had to be married.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Firehall
Well so far, I have my god sister (who I’m probably going to ask to be my matron of honor when it comes time), and his little sister (who will be 17 at the time of our wedding). So I really only need to pick two more girls.. And I’m stuck. It kinda sucks to be honest. My brother is married, but I really don’t want to put his new wife in the bridal party because of the whole “feeling obligated” like she did me. It kinda sucked to be the one bridemaid out of the loop of things because of that.
Post # 10
I asked my best friend from college, then any of my girlfriends who I lived with overseas who are able to travel for my wedding will be bridesmaids too since they’ll be traveling so far, to fill in the rest of the BM slots i guess i’ll wait until RSVPs start coming in and ask the first female friend or cousin to be a BM.
i’m not doing the shower/party/etc., I’m asking my MOH to choose a RTR dress for herself as well as a few extra dresses that coordinate for bridesmaids to choose from if they wish. Seeing as the only real BM duty i’m assigning is renting a $50 dress and having a fun time at the reception, I don’t feel bad about choosing girls haphazardly – i don’t think my method would work if you wanted your girls to buy $$$ matching dresses and shoes and to host a bridal shower and bachelorette party but it works for me… 🙂