- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Well fiance and I are looking at houses and apartments together. The problem is, his apartment lease is up on Sept. 1 and he told his landlord that he would move out. His place is now already rented to a new tenant, so he can’t stay there.
It’s looking increasingly unlikely that we’ll be able to purchase a house in time for that deadline. We live in a tiny town with a very bad housing market. We want to be patient and wait for a house that we love, rather than just buying because we have to. If we wait for maybe a year, a few houses in a neighborhood we both like are coming on the market.
I currently live in a 3,200 sqft loft apartment, that has a gourmet kitchen, fireplaces, high ceilings, exposed brick, built in bar, etc, that is absolutely gorgeous. I know it’s hard to believe such a place exists, given what I just said about the housing market here, but it’s the god’s honest truth. Not only that, all the utilities are included.
But here’s the issue. Fiance refuses, absolutely refuses to move into my apartment. He says he’d rather sleep on a friend’s couch or find another crappy rental apartment in our town rather than move into my place. He says it’s too cold in the winter there and that there’s no space for him. Yes, he says there’s no space for him in a 3,200 sqft apartment.
I kinda get what he’s saying–it’s a loft, so it’s 2 huge rooms plus a separate bathroom area. So it’s not like it’s divided up into several rooms. That’s why he says there isn’t space for him there.
But it just breaks my heart to give up this place. We’re looking for rentals in town and nothing compares really. And no matter what I say, he refuses to move into my place.
I honestly want to cry, thinking of giving up my apartment. Yes, I know that marriage is supposed to be about compromise, but it sucks that we BOTH have to move, into a place that will probably be worse than what I currently have now, because he won’t move in here.
How did you all combine households? How was it? Please help me keep my sanity–I feel depressed just thinking about it.