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How did you compromise on getting a pet

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    blinx81    November 25, 2012  

    My man has been quite adament that we shouldn't get a pet, due to the responsbilities involved - he used to have a dog and said that as rewarding as it is, he spent hours training him, hosing down pee and poop, taking care of medical costs, etc.

    I know I have the capability of just getting one and proving to him that I'm willing to take on just as much responsibility, however it would be nice that it was a mutual decision and not done behind his back!

    So the question is, how did you get your man to agree on a pet? Did you start small perhaps (eg. bird, rodent) or take on petsitting and gradually get your own? What worked for you?

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    Would he consider fostering? That might be something of an inbetween step so you can both see how it goes without the lifelong commitment!

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    I just begged. A lot. lol It was only a guinea pig though, not a dog or cat. His boss also encouraged him to let me adopt it (he works at an animal shelter). Good luck! I defiitely agree that you should come to a mutal decision about it.

     
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    sdrury89    March 10, 2012   Houston, TX

    I would definitely recommend fostering a dog. If there is a certain breed you're looking for you can find a rescue group for the breed or just go to your local humane society.

     
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    abbyful    June 7, 2011   Kansas City

    Luckily I didn't have to. My fiance and I are both "pet people".

    2 of our 3 dogs, I've just told him "we're driving to [city or state] in 2 weeks to pick up a dog".

     
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    soon2bhis    December 26, 1999  

    I already had a bird that I moved in (that FI hates), and I got a hamster a couple months after.  We are now about to be fostering a dog (FI finally agreed).  Apparently he just had to go pet a dog and realize how much he wanted one.  Good luck!

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    FH bought horrible yet thoughtful christmas presents and he realized it.  When I saw the puppy online he told me we would go get her.

     
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    AmeliaBedelia    March 3, 2012   Georgia

    Honestly? We both wanted one but he was wary of the "costs" both money and time.

    So I said "Well, let's just go look." And we brought her home that day. :) The 2nd was way easier. "She needs a friend." "Yeah." :)

     
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    FutureMrsBPB    October 1, 2011   Maryland

    My fiance and I agreed on getting a dog from a shelter that was 2-3 years old that was already housebroken instead of a puppy that we had to potty-train.  We love our little girl!!

     
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    kingytobe    June 26, 2011  

    I said I wanted a pet (a dog, a cat, a bird, whatever) and he said no. He said we can get a fish tank and I can pick out the fish... I'm still trying to convince him to let me get a pet.

     
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    sdrury89    March 10, 2012   Houston, TX

    @abbyful: That's kind of how we got our second dog. Our first dog I got from a manager at work and I called him and said, can we "test" him out over the weekend and he never left. The second was "we're going to test a dog with Ace this weekend." He never left either :)

     

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