(Closed) How did you convince your SO that you really want a gemstone ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Well my FI and I were engaged before  with a different ring and he loved that I loved Saphires because it was something he could afford! He was a brand new Marine at the time getting ready for deployment so we didn’t have a whole lot to spend and so he was over the moon that I didn’t want a diamond. It was really easy to convince him ๐Ÿ˜› It was a little harder this time around to convince him to go the route of moissy but after we looked into it more he was more than happy about it.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

What about the gorg. Sapphire ring that Princess Kate has? If sapphire is good for royalty why not us common folk?  I love sapphires myself and have a 3 stone ering with diamond center and 2 pear sapphire sidestones.

 

As far as convincing my SO, i simply kept showing him the photo of the ring i wanted.. He ended up selecting another setting but was sure to include the sapphires Since he knew i really wanted it.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

First off, I’ve followed your posts (esp when I was a brand new bee, I was completely enthralled by your posts!) so I’m SOOO happy this is working out for you!! =)

Next, I just said it over and over and over and over and over until it got annoying haha I wanted a yellow sapphire, so I just stuck to showing my SO some natural untreated sapphires online to show her that they weren’t much cheaper than the diamonds we had looked at, explaining that I didn’t want a traditional ring with a stone that everyone and their mother has, and saying “if you don’t get a yellow sapphire than you’ll be getting a yellow diamond of similar size & that’s gonna cost big bucks so you might wanna stick with the one I actually WANT” jokingly lol

What color sapphire are you considering?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

I just told my fiance I didnt like diamond engagement rings. In the end we chose together and I ended up with a big beautiful purple color changing sapphire.

 

As stated if its good enough for royalty its good enough for everyone. Sapphires are the second most common engagement stone. They come in a variety of colors. Do you have a color preference? Do you have a setting in mind? 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Just fyi, a diamond is gemstone too… I think you mean ‘natural colored gemstone.’

A good quality, untreated, vivid blue sapphire is NOT cheap, by any definition. It is not much less than a good diamond. Have him do a little research on the prices of untreated colored gemstones and he should lose all belief that colored gems are cheap in no time!!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My FI and discussed rings and stones, and I’ve never been too partial to diamonds and he knew that.  I researched stones and found one that I just LOVED.   He was fine with whatever I wanted, as long as it made me happy.  End of story.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I don’t have mine yet. (It’s being made)

I was engaged once before(with a diamond) and have my Great Grandmother, Grandmother, Nana and Mom’s diamond rings.  I do not need another one.

I told my SO that I wanted something unique and different and special~like me and our relationship, not something that comes off the assembly line.

And I wanted something green.  He told me to just tell him what kind of stone I wanted.  I did one better.  I bought my own stone(well, he paid for it~but I found it)

And I cannot wait to get my Chrysoberyl back!! (Soon, I hope)

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - Ceremony: St Patrick's Basilica Reception: Southern Cross Ballroom, Esplanade Hotel Fremantle

I didn’t actually know what i wanted in the beginning lol, i did know that i wanted an antique and i didn’t want a diamond :). FI and i went shopping on my birthday and we browsed the antique stores because it’s one of my favourite things to do, because it was august they had a lot of peridot out.

 

 

 

We weren’t shopping for a ring though i was just looking at things and trying stuff on like i normally do, i tried on an opal and yeah it was so not me. I spotted my e-ring and fell in love, i asked to try it on and it was a perfect fit. I tried on a diamond daisy and i really didn’t like it, i preferred my birthstone. Little did i know FI put a deposit on it that day and popped the question in december, he definitely knew that was the one :).

 

 

 

Here is a pic of my ring <3, coloured gemstones can look amazingly pretty. Show him what you like, and also tell him about the whole his birthstone and your birthstone story. I reckon he’ll think that it’s a really sweet idea ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Luckily, my FI was the one who had the idea of purchasing a colored gemstone. At first he was looking into purple diamonds but then realized how expensive they were and he decided on a violet sapphire; which I love. So no convincing needed but I would suggest maybe telling him what you just told us about why diamonds leave a bad taste in your mouth. I think he would understand then.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I told my fiance that I really wanted an emerald and why I wanted one rather than a diamond.  Simple, honest and straightforward got him on board.

Since you’ve mentioned wanting a sapphire, you could try mentioning the conflict diamond thing.  Or tell him you’d rather have an unforgettable honeymoon than a more expensive ring.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I’m not going to lie, the difference in money definitely helped. No, gemstone rings aren’t always cheaper than a diamond, but the styles I specifically liked were always really expensive with a diamond in them. We’re both young (he’s 21 and I’m almost 23), and finances are definitely still an issue. 

But I also made it clear to him that his love for me isn’t defined by how much he spent on a ring. People kept telling him he needed to spend like $2,500, which to me personally is outrageous, and I think he got a little freaked out when a childhood friend of his proposed to his girlfriend in December with a several thousand dollar ring.

The thing that made it finally click with him is that I told him that I was ultimately asking for a ring with a green stone because I wanted one, and that’s what he can tell people. “This is what she wanted, and it makes her happy.” And really, who can argue with that?

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@peacockrosebride:  Wow, I have never seen a ring like that! Gorgeous.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That’s great that things are working out for you! I remember your previous posts.

I don’t have a gemstone ring myself, but they are really common here in the UK. Diana/Kate’s ring has certainly increased the popularity of blue sapphire recently but gemstone engagement rings have been around for decades. Why not show your SO some pictures of antique rings to show him they are more traditional than he might think?

My mother and FMIL both have gemstone engagement rings and my grandma has a gemstone “upgrade” – they are all gorgeous!

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