(Closed) How did you deal? In tears. I need advice. *VENT*

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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9620 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ellebeerob:  ((HUGS))  Oh, wow, what a bunch of jerks you work with.  You don’t need to have to deal with that, pregnancy is challenging enough as it is.  I’m so sorry! 

I also did not like people touching my baby belly (why the heck do they do that????  like it’s public property or something, sheesh!!)  Once I gave a strange lady the stink eye for doing it and said, “Um, I can feel that you know.  You can’t just go around touching people’s stomach without permission.”  I’m sure she thougth I was the bitchiest pregnant woman ever.

I don’t know what to tell you if you’re a sensitive soul to begin with, poor baby.  I’m not so sensitve and to the “boob comment guy” I’d have probably said something about his obvious need to overly compensate for his little teeny-tiny needle dick by being a comedian in front of everyone, to get him back.  I would have insulted him in some way regarding a small penis, but that’s me.

Try to realize that sometimes people are stupid but they probably really don’t mean to hurt your feelings.  And especially with guys, learn to give back as good as you get  The first time everyone laughs at him  then he’ll stop picking on you.  Bullies don’t like to be laughed at by the crowd they’re trying to impress.

I wish you all the best! 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m not pregnant and don’t have any good advice for you, but I am also dreading the “strangers touching me” syndrom of pregnancy.  When it happens, I am tempted to make a shirt with a big X over the belly and the words “Don’t touch!”  🙂

Hang in there!  (PS – The guy’s comment about getting fat was totally uncalled for.  What a jerk!)

Post # 5
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Ugh…I haven’t told work yet, but I know it’s coming.  The only other woman in the office said something the other day to someone else about how she is one of those people who will go up and rub a stranger’s pregnant belly. How is that okay and how has she not gotten slapped yet?  I suspect that the day I announce at work I’ll be wearing a “Don’t touch the belly” shirt. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh my god. I would lose my fcking mind. I will start slapping the hands of people who touch my (future) pregnant belly. That is a SERIOUS personal space violation. A girl I used to work with told me that I should just “deal with it,” but sorry, no, I will not “just deal with” random people (STRANGERS!!!!!) touching me.

Post # 7
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2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

All of that behavior is totally out of line. I’m so sorry. I certainly hope this the exception, rather than the norm. Why would they be rubbing your belly? I’m 16w and have not even the slightest sign of a bump. If someone tried to touch my stomach I would probably hit them.

Do you live in the U.S.?

Post # 8
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ellebeerob:  What the hell?! Seriously?! I want to punch these people on your behalf. *Hugs*

Post # 9
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow, I can’t imagine. Not pregnant yet but actively trying. I will not be okay with random people touchign me. I’m already pretty anti-social so I won’t deal well with people touching my pregnant belly. I’ve gotten pretty good at the ‘don’t come near me’ look so i’ll just have to improve on that. ugh.

Post # 10
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2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ellebeerob:  I think for starters you need this shirt and a blazer for your new work outfit…

 

or this one

 

And after that, maybe you need to have a quick, “my body is not up for discussion” line to throw out when people start going nuts. Good lord. This is a lot worse than some of the other “people are annoying about my pregnancy” threads I’ve read. This is horirble!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Are you in the US? Because in all honesty I would go directly to HR on this one. It’s a work event so people are still bound by all the relevant laws. You are protected as a pregnant woman – if they are creating a hostile environment for you, you should report it. Seriously.

Post # 14
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not pregnant and don’t have any advice that hasn’t been illustrated here (definitely consider HR now or if it continues!!) But I just want to send you some HUGS and the thought that July isn’t all too far away until you have a wonderful payoff! 🙂

Post # 15
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Oh geeze….. coworkers are the worst…. I have gotten rude comments too. They are not doing it to be malicious (they are only trying to be funny), but those words can sting. Just tell them that you would really appreciate it if they would stop. Don’t worry about them getting upset about it, I doubt that will happen especially if you asked them nicely. If it continues, you should most definitely go to HR. You are protected by law.

Post # 16
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How about “OMG I guess ive been too busy noticing my boobs I JUST REALIZED how fat your ass has gotten!! Maybe lay off the cheese doodles from now on??” 

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