Post # 1
I am so excited to get married and start a new life with my fiance! My SO has been in the Navy for 2 1/2 years, so we’ve been long distance for years. I’m not worried about living with him at all, but I’m worried about what it will be like moving state to state. My SO is attending Arizona State University to finish his bachelor’s degree, so I will be moving from California to Arizona. I know that really is not a far move, but I am truly going to miss California! I’ve traveled all over the US and in my personal opinion, it is the most beautiful and diverse (geographically, culturally) place to live. All of my friends and family live in CA and I’m already getting teary eyed just thinking about leaving them behind; especially because I know there are quite a few more moves in store for me. Also I am a teacher in CA and since every state has their own teaching requirements, I will have to reapply for a teaching credential everywhere we go which is a HUGE hassle.
How do you deal with all the moving? Any advice on coping with homesickness right after you get married? I know marriage is a big adjustment, and I guess I’m wondering how to cope with the stress associated with moving as well.
Post # 2
I didn’t move after marriage, but did move states for my Fiance who is also in the military. Weird mix of excitement to finally be living together and sadness at leaving behind my closest friends and family, so you’re not alone in feeling what you are! All I can say is get committed to your new home – join a social or sports group, try to meet as many other wives of your husband’s friends as you can, and you’re bound to start forming a whole new set of friends or at least have things to do on weekends that don’t just revolve around you as a couple. I found having my individual life helped me feel less helpless in the move. If you can, book a trip or two home for the next few months just so you don’t feel like you’re leaving for good just saying goodbye for now. Make sure your husband understands that it is hard for you… Mine didn’t really think it through as he was so excited, he thought my only emotion would be excitement too but I was also scared and sad! Once he realised he was much more supportive. This post is a bit rambly but hope some of it helps! Good luck with the wedding and the move 🙂
Post # 3
I definitely know how you feel. I moved 10,000 miles away, from Texas to Singapore, from family after we got married (husband also military). It’s definitely scary at first and sad to be away from everyone you hold dear but the adventures that the military will provide for you guys are just absolutely exciting. Enjoy and embrace this journey with your husband and don’t think of it as moving away from family but moving toward your own family.
I would recommend not going home often. Use the time to get used to it being just the two of you. Make new friends in the area and use that time to explore your new surroundings. It’ll all work out better than you know it and with things like skype/facetime, moving miles away doesn’t always feel as far!
Post # 4
fifimannn: Wow! 10,000 miles! I cannot even imagine moving to new country right after marriage!
Thanks for the support ladies! Definitly helpful to know I’m not the only one that has felt this way 🙂
Post # 5
My ex-husband was transferred every year. My most important piece of advice is to remember that there are nice people everywhere. It’s up to you to put yourself out and make the first move. You are the one who needs new friends.
Post # 6
I’m originally from Indiana, I moved to Texas for schooling and I met my husband shortly after getting here. We got married a few months after meeting (when you know…you know lol) anyways he left a month after we got married. I moved an hour away from my school for him so I just communte back and forth. Just being married, alone, and somewhere that I have no family nor friends has been the hardest adjustment I’ve ever had to make. I’m a full time med student and work part time as a pharmacy tech so I try to stay as busy as possible. That has helped me cope but it’s still hard especially now that school is out for summer. Thank goodness he gets back in 2 weeks!