Post # 1
Hey ladies 🙂
My bridesmaids will be all shapes and sizes (and NO I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH THAT!) and I want them all to somehow have a say in what they are going to wear…so my question is how did you decide on the dresses? Did you pick a color and let them choose the style? or did you just give them a style and they all agreed on a particular one? etc…
I really want all of them to be happy and comfortable with what they will be wearing on my wedding day 🙂
If you have any suggestions of any online retailers (all of my bridesmaids are spread all over the US and one in England) that would be great also!
Post # 3
I love the idea of prints and solids all in the same shade or color or letting some wear 2 peices or one peice based on body type i think its cute and its allowing them all to be comfortable. I only have one bridesmaid so i didnt run into this issue
Post # 4
I may have been particularly laid-back when it came to this, but I didn’t even know my wedding colors before we went shopping for bridesmaid dresses. So I just let the four of them pick out a dress that looked great on everyone, and then I chose which color I liked out of those that were available for that dress. Everyone looks stunning and I am very pleased with my decision =)
Post # 5
Go for classic lines in the dresses. Not only am I getting married but I also help style girls of all different sizes. So here are your best dress options: A-lined, strapless, sweatheart, natural waist and modestly cut.
Follow these rules and the girls should be fairly happy!
I gave the choice of long or short and my Maid/Matron of Honor was able to pick hers out and make it different. Find a stylist that can help you out… give them picture of the your Bridesmaid or Best Man and I am sure they will pick something that is universal and flattering! Good luck!
Post # 6
As a girl who is a little more curvy, I definitely appreciate it when I am asked to wear a dress that flatters my body. I selected the 4 Jcrew silk chiffon dresses in Grphite and told my ladies to select whichever they would be happiest in. In all reality, most bridesmaids will not wear the dress again, so I feel like if you keep their bodies in mind & try to make them comfortable, then it’s all good!
Post # 7
I had a color in mind and well it turned out to be harder than I thought to find the color.
So I just went shopping with the girls, found a dress they all liked which was similar and changed my colors around them. (i went shopping with the girls 9 months out, they all happen to fairly similar body shape so the cut fit all) and the pricetag was also a contributing factor.
Just really depends on the girls. Some of my friends are like ‘whatever you want, we will wear’ other bridal parties ive been its like.. im not wearing that or that, it doesnt go or whatever.
So i was fairly deteremind as a bride not to be too picky and let the girls enjoy the shopping experience. Which they very much did 🙂
Post # 8
I just went through this. I was spending hours online trying to find a dress that would fit a wide range of bodies (7 bridesmaids!). In all, I figured it was unnecessary stress and just sent out an e-mail letting the ladies know that they are free to choose their dress (within certain boundaries, certain color, length, fabric, no patterns, etc.). Feel like a load’s been taken off my shoulders! 🙂
Post # 9
I feel weird about dictating their bridesmaids dress in telling them the EXACT dress to buy. I’ve remembered being bridesmaids before and feeling ambivalent about the amount of money I was spending for a dress that I did not like and would wear only once.
For my bridesmaids, I’m going to the mix-matched look. I’ve told my bridesmaids the color (it’s okay to me if the colors do not match exactly), the length and straps. This way each person can make a decision on their dress based on their spending comfortable level, style and if they want a dress they can wear again.
Another option that I’ve seen most people do is choose one color at a store and BMs can pick their own style (like at David’s Bridal or Jcrew).
Post # 10
My bridesmaids are sizes 00, 2, 4 and 4 (I only know because I ordered them myself all together to make sure they came from the same dye lot/for simplicity’s sake), so I didn’t have the problem of having to fit hugely different body types, but I ended up going shopping one day with two of them since they’re all from out of town, and weeded out a lot, and then the next weekend one more came to town and I showed her the dresses they thought might work. I gave them the option of picking different styles from the same line/fabric, but they all ended up picking the same dress. Then, my maid of honour just went with it, because she was on an extended vacation in Australia at the time.
Post # 11
Personally, I really like the mismatched bridal party look! I think it is incredibly modern and hip to have all your bridesmaids look slightly different. And plus the girls will appreciate it it SO much more to be able to find dresses that they are comfortable with and that compliment their bodies (as well as dresses that they actually like enough to be able to wear again!)
I chose the designer, fabric and color for my BM’s from Alfred Angelo. That left them with 12 different dress options. They all choose different styles and the same length. They look amazing in their dresses and I picked a neutral champagne color in chiffon fabric–so they don’t look bridesmaidish at all and can wear the dress to any event.
Post # 12
I chose a color (Berry by Alfred Angelo) and about 5 dresses that were long and 5 dresses that were short (some strapless, some with straps) and asked the girls to pick whichever one they wanted. It worked out really well and they all looked great (IMHO). Two of the girls picked the same dress, the other four girls had different dresses – it was a great option for me – I didn’t feel like telling 6 girls in their 30’s what to wear… (and they all wore black shoes of their choice)
Post # 13
I let mine pick them out, I just gave them a range of colors (somewhere between ivory and black). One picked platinum and one picked black, and unbelievably they picked the same dress out weeks apart.
Post # 14
My girls are all shapes and sizes too, so I didn’t want to make them uncomfortable. I went in with a few different ideas for color and had them try it on–thankfully my favorite color looked great on everyone! I just told them to get a dress in that color, knee length, no taffeta. They ended up with 4 different styles and I think it looks great!
Post # 15
I decided early on that I didn’t want to be tied down to one colour with my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses cos I feel like then you’re kinda committed – like if you have pink dresses then everything else ends up being pink, white and black. And I wasn’t really up for that. So initially I picked “gelati colours” as a theme and then I chose an individual pastel colour for each of my girls. So now we’ve got my sister in Lilac, my stepsister in coral/apricot/pink, and my two mates are wearing pale lemon and pistachio. I’m super excited about it. I didn’t want it too look to “bridesmaidy” as we’re planning a fun, relaxed wedding so the girls are picking the style of their dresses too. Only stipulations are length and fabric (chiffon).
Post # 16
I just picked the color and said that they all needed to have the same fabric no matter what dresses they chose. I assumed they would all pick a different dress, but I was wrong. They ended up all choosing the same dress, with the exception of my Maid/Matron of Honor. She’s the only one with a different dress.