How did you decide on your DOJ? (especially if you purchased it off of etsy)

posted 2 years ago in Accessories
Post # 2
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Well, I looked through my jewelry box and picked out some simple studs. And cleaned my rings that I wear everyday. On the day of the ceremony I decided to borrow a hari flower from my sister. So yeah, I didn’t stress about it that much. 

Post # 3
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

I found a necklace that I loved at Nordstrom. It was way out of budget, though! Then, another bee offered to help people do searches for different things, and I asked if she’d help me find something like it at a much lower price point. She did AMAZING! I’d already spent hours online trying to find something that I liked. I hemmed and hawed for a week or so, and put in a custom order request on Annamall. She couldn’t match the necklace, so I asked about altering one of the necklaces she had on her site. She couldn’t. So I hemmed and hawed for another week and then put through an order for the unalterable necklace. I was so happy to have it done! A week later she canceled the order, saying she couldn’t source the necklace any more. DOH!! So back to the drawing board. Found – looked around there for several days, making lists of the ones I liked. Earlier this week I finally ordered a necklace and earring set, as well as a matching bracelet. I ordered several different pairs of earrings of varying sizes, as I don’t know what will work best. I had a coworker say the same thing to me when I showed her what I was thinking of – that I didn’t want to overpower what else I am wearing. She thought the necklace was too much. Ultimately, I decided (after texting with my mom, who had agreed with me about the necklace) that I love the necklave and I don’t think it’s too much. I just got an email that it shipped this morning! Here’s hoping it isn’t “too much!” I don’t think I’ll know until I try everything on . . . 

Post # 4
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I had a very distinct sense of what I wanted based on the feel we were going for on our wedding day, my own personal style, and a specific element of my dress that I decided to draw out. I could have gone romantic with my dress, drawing on the large flower at the hip, or I could have gone more modern and angular, drawing on the asymmetric neckline that jutted to a point. My personal style trends toward dark colors and clean lines, so I decided to play up the asymmetric, pointed neckline of my dress, and chose accessories that also have strong angles and points. From that point I started looking and noticed that many of the items calling my name were labled as “art deco” so that became a key search term for narrowing options down. If I found something I liked, I clipped it to Polyvore, where I had already clipped a photo of my dress, and paired it with other items to see how they worked together.

My rule of thumb is that bold earrings = no necklace, a bold necklace = simple stud earrings, bold earrings + bracelet, bold necklace + cocktail ring. I figured that on my wedding day, I could get away with bold earrings, a bracelet, and a cocktail ring. I’m such a rebel. haha I also had a hair piece.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  lovekiss.
Post # 5
4441 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

stargazer102706:  OMG a new acronym I have to learn!

I struggled A LOT with my “DOJ” as you put it.  I bought several sets off of Ebay and Amazon (and returned them).  I ended up going with simpler, CHEAP earrings from Ebay, some diamond studs I’d received as a gift and another bracelet from Ebay.

I decided if something was too much or not by comparing pictures on WB and trying on my dress with the jewelry.

Post # 6
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I just made exactly what I wanted (

Post # 7
1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wanted something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue. For my something old I wore a beautiful necklace that my grandma got when she was very young. She and my mom bought me beautiful blue earrings that match it perfectly. I borrowed a sparkly hair comb from a friend, and wore a beaded bracelet I bought on a trip that was very important in my life. All of my jewellery had a lot of meaning to me. 

Post # 8
1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

Ugh, I have two dresses and went in to an upscale boutique to shop. I fell in love with $1800 worth of accessories and bought them all!!  I loved them at the time (I don’t have them yet since they are all special order).  But I am now regretting one of hte headpieces I bought for $300 and I called yesterday and the shop will not cancel the order or allow me to exchange it for something else in the store!  So sad, but hopefully when I get it again I will love it. 

I went knowing I wanted a headpiece, earnings and braceletes to go with each of my dresses and taht’s what I walked out with.  I had searched Etsy, but I just couldn’t bring myself to order something final sale without seeing it in person and trying it on first!! 

Post # 10
3199 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

stargazer102706:  to me, simple is always better, especially if your dress is ‘busy’. think Kate Middleton.

my dress was lace from the waist down, with a satin beaded sash (built in) and a rouched organza bust, so i didn’t wear a necklace because it would have been too busy. i don’t do headpieces (too busy for me) so i wore a statement bracelet and small pearl and rhinestone earrings. when in doubt, do as the ladies always say – take one piece off.

Post # 11
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

stargazer102706:  I think it depends on how heavily decorated your dress is.  Like lovekiss and TwoStatesBride mentioned, I feel accessories are about balance to prevent it from being “too much”.

I knew that I wanted my jewelry to be simple and timeless from early on.  My dress is lace with a beaded sash and I won’t be wearing a headpiece except for the veil. I know I definitely want to wear my mother’s pearl bracelet, so depending on how I do my hair, I’ll pair it with either her pearl stud earrings or pearl necklace.

Post # 13
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I think the hairpiece and necklace may compete with each other, as they are both quite bling-y. If you want to keep the necklace, I would skip the headpiece. If you want to keep the headpiece, I would go with a small pendant necklace.

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