How did you decide on your venue? I'm stuck between two!

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

@Nomster:  wasn’t in the same situation, but they both sound beautiful! pics?

Post # 4
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Nomster:  That’s tough! Since you haven’t been to the mansion, just a bit of advice that might help you decide. I really want my wedding at a mansion and luckily we have quite a few gorgeous ones around here. The problem in all of them was either a) no heat or a/c and b) the layout was not great. The reception area was like 3-4 rooms and the dance floor was always separate. So, if you were sitting at your table, you couldn’t see the dancing. If that is not a problem for you then great. Just wanted to let you know since that was a no-go for us. 


Post # 5
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

FI and I were torn between two venues, too.  We went back for a second visit to both of them on the same date (we had previously gone to each on separate weekends) so both were fresh in our minds.  One was a botanic garden with different intimate spaces, had a very natural feel, and the reception would be in a glass building that’s used as a greenhouse during the winter.  The other was a beautiful estate with a historic mansion and expansive, formal gardens and rolling hills.  We basically went with our gut reactions of what felt more “us.”  We both felt that the mansion was too “grand” feeling for how we imagined our wedding day.  The botanic garden felt closer to who we are as people, and it had some small touches that really spoke to our interests, such as Latin phrases on the buildings, Greco-Roman style sculpture, view that’s similar to a sentimental place, etc.

If you’re having a hard time feeling that gut response, get a coin and assign heads to one venue and tales for the other.  As soon as someone throws it in the air, call what you hope it will be.

Post # 7
357 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Does the mansion at least have a day of coordinator? I can’t say enough how INVALUABLE ours was, and did an amazing job, and was so so helpful. For that reason alone…I’d go with the first one! Plus it sounds unique.


But, it’s such a personal decision. You guys know what is best for you!

Post # 10
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

The mansion sounds better to me. Bigger, bride/groom rooms, and less decorating/planning required. 

Post # 11
2535 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

what one is most easy to get to?

how is parking?

what one matches your colors the best?

who offers the best perks?


Post # 12
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I would definitely go with the water option. There seems to be so many great benefits:

A beautiful variety of photo ops with the indoor and outdoor scenery. Love that!

I also like that the chef can authentically prepare in house the cultural items you want. 

I am always fearful of long staircases when everyone is staring and there’s tulle in my face (veil)

Simplicity is sometimes the way to go. the fact that you both can add your own touches to make it yours seems ideal. In addition, if you guys aren’t already “glamorous” then it will cost you. Imo of course, you will need to do everything glam to coordinate with the venue. Think invitations, cake, etc. You can send DIY invites to a glamorous mansion wedding. It just seems off. 

Either way, you’re winning! As they both sound amazing!

Post # 13
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We had a similar problem.  We found two venues, both literally on the same road, 15 minutes apart.  One is a winery on the beach.  The other is an old turn of the century stone pavilion with a huge, gorgeous park on one side, and a beach on the other side of it.  We actually ended up booking the ceremony at the winery, and the reception will be at the pavilion so we get the best of both worlds (granted, this was cheap for us to do, total will be $1100 for both venues). I don’t know if that’s an option for you guys?

Personally, I would chose the first one, but I’m biased and I love any venues that are on the water.

Post # 14
2429 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yep one was a Victorian Mansion and the other a botanic garden.  In the end we decided based on reviews of the venue, menu options, open bar cost (one venue was significantly higher than the other), and reviewed all the little expenses that could add up at both places.  We actually ended up making a chart comparing the two item by item for cost and which we liked at what place more and then decided from there.

Post # 15
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

We eventually made a list of what we really felt we HAD TO HAVE. It helped us to kick some venues out of the running. When we got down to the final 2-3 we just compared what they offered and menus and guest comfort and then chose one.

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