(Closed) How did you decide that eloping was best for you?

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It was simple for me…I’ve been bored at every wedding I’ve ever attended. 
Also, I didn’t have the time or patience to plan anything so we eloped.  We had no guests and didn’t even need witnesses.  It was the 2 of us, our officiant, and a photographer.  It was my perfect wedding.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@walnutgirl:  One the one hand a wedding would mean having everyone here but it would also be so stressful and hard to organise and probably quite expensive.

Those are some of the reasons we changed our wedding plans. Originally, we were going to invite 80 people for a traditional country club wedding. It was very stressful to plan, however, and it didn’t make me happy. Once we decided to have an intimate backyard wedding with just close family and friends, we agreed it felt much more “us,” and I couldn’t be happier!!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

The fact that everytime I started to think about all of those people looking at me, the money my parents would have to spend and the amount of time I would have to waste planning and NOT being Mr. 99’s wife I wanted to scream…it made that choice rather obvious to us both, really.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@walnutgirl:  There were a lot of different reasons behind our choice, but it came right down to it. The day is about us and we have seen so many people who have really not had the wedding they wanted because everyone else felt the need to enforce their opinions. 

Another reason is finances. We wish to buy a home in the next couple years and it was either we buy a home or we throw a big wedding. We opted for the home as this will last a lifetime. Our families are not well off financially and we would be the ones paying the entire bill.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@walnutgirl:  We haven’t eloped yet, but there’s no way a big wedding is happening.

A number of reasons:

-I never wanted a big wedding, and he already did the big wedding back in the day so isn’t interested in doing it again

-His parents and most of his other family are in the UK, mine are scattered around the world, and we’re in Canada

-My immediate family isn’t interested in a wedding. To give you an idea, my mom has been telling me since I was a little girl that eloping is the way to go, always comments on how weddings are a huge waste of money, and when I suggested to them that we do something small, they even criticised that

-We’re not exactly social butterflies. We each have a few close friends, but we’re not the party types that would want to invite all our acquaintances and spend money on a big party

Basically eloping seems like the best bet. Don’t get me wrong – I kinda wish that my mom especially was more interested in the whole wedding thing, but you can’t win ’em all, right? In the end it’s one day of our lives, and at least if it’s just the two of us, we can do it in a nice, drama-free way. We’re probably going to escape to our favorite hotel in the mountains and spend a few days there, and have a quick ceremony somewhere picturesque (like anywhere in the mountains lol).

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

-My immediate family isn’t interested in a wedding. To give you an idea, my mom has been telling me since I was a little girl that eloping is the way to go, always comments on how weddings are a huge waste of money, and when I suggested to them that we do something small, they even criticised that

 

This was us too.  I got the message my whole life that eloping is preferred and weddings are generally a PITA for guests to attend (I always thought they were fun to go to as a kid!).

Not wanting to spend a ton of $$$, but not ending up with something fancy enough that warranted the price of plane tickets, hotels, cars that people would have to rent to my little rustic cheap-o wedding (which I had planned up until 4 months prior to the wedding).

Reciting vows is kind of a intimate personal thing IMO.  I’m not sure how I would have felt reciting things in front of a crowd.  I’d be more worried about what the crowd was thinking than what I was saying to my husband.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@walnutgirl:  the details of a wedding aren’t interesting enough to me to spend money and time on making it happen. At that time I would be bored planning much of anything, and I’m too frugal to want to spend that money, anyway. The weekend were got engage a family freind started in about “what are your colors?” and I said: no colors. and then thought that was just the tip of the iceberg, there would be hundreds of questions about things that I simply don’t care about.Also,l we were moving, I was getting a new job, and I just. didn’t. have, the interest.

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

We wanted something simple, just us. We both want to share the moment and time together, as it is important to us. And his family is one that if you invite one person’ he felt like he would have to invite everyone and just didn’t want to.

So we went from my original smallwedding idea with just close family to the two of us. And we’re really excited for it!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My FI and I are very shy and we feel weird about PDA so we decided that just the two of us would be the best choice. Neither of us would feel comfortable kissing in front of our family and friends ( honestly idk how we are going to make it through pictures lol) We do have a 2 year old who will be 3 by the time we are married and we still have not decided if she will be present becuase she can be a little wild lol.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@walnutgirl:  Yeah, it sucks when parents don’t approve of something you really really want ๐Ÿ™

I am sure she will come around.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@sienna76:  I totally agree w. you re: reciting the vows. I am a fairly shy person, and I’ve always thought that getting married was kind of a private, personal thing that I wouldn’t want 500 people to witness.

Your wedding is one of my favorites that I’ve seen ๐Ÿ™‚

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