How did you decide to start trying for a baby?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

We are waiting for DH to get his next promotion (within the next year) because then he’ll be making enough money that I’ll be able to quit my job when a baby arrives and be a SAHM to our children.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

We are waiting for my fiancé to finish this MBA (June 2014). By then we will have been married almost a year and will have taken a couple big vacations we want to get out of the way before having kids.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We were waiting for our wedding and honeymoon to be over and to be moved into our new house before officially starting ttc. We always knew we wanted to have children soon after we were married. We started trying 4 months after our wedding.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

we are waiting until we are 27 (3 years from now). we both feel like this is a good age to start TTC and by this time, we will have been together for six years and married for 3. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We waited until after the wedding/honeymoon and then we decided to try mostly based on my age. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We have discussed TTC about 6 months after our wedding, but I think we’ll just start trying right away. I’m 35 and I really don’t want to wait! We both really want children and feel that if we waited until we had a ton of money or the perfect house or whatever, we’d be waiting forever. And my lady parts don’t have forever!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

We are waiting until next summer. We are both teachers so it seems like a good time to start trying. We both wanted to be married a year first to enjoy just us. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

We started discussing having a baby around the time we got engaged. The original plan was to start trying right after we were married…but then a series of things happened, including looking for a house. We started trying at the beginning of June, deciding that we’d just move into a bigger apartment if I got pregnant in the meantime.

About five days after that, we finally had an offer accepted on a house after looking and bidding for a -year-. Had our inspection yesterday, the couple currently living there is just about ready to close on their new place…everything’s going swimmingly so far.

That was really the only hold-up for us. We didn’t want to have a baby before we were married, nor have that question on the minds of everyone (I didn’t care that much, but didn’t feel like BS from the in-laws).

I’m not ancient when it comes to having a first child. I’m a little older than the average (and I do mean average – which I think is 24 in the U.S.?), though.

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ours was totally job-based.  Currently I work a ton and DH works ~50-55 hours.  My schedule won’t change for a while, but starting in July, DH will be working more like 40 hours a week, meaning we could handle a normal day care and he’d be around a lot to pick up the slack while I’m working.  We always thought we’d wait until this summer/fall to start trying, but we got antsy and stopped BC in January.  It’s funny how many major life decisions are based on things like job hours.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wanted to be late 20s/early 30s, and my FI needs to be done grad school, so that’s the factor there

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We just got married a month ago. I think we will be TTC around october/november. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

After buying a house

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It was mostly an age thing. He finished his doctorate and I finished my masters, got engaged, and then about five months after we got married, I turned 30 and literally, we started TTC then. LOL People who don’t know our history have said, “Wow, they wasted no time” but we had been together for 8 years by the time we TTC!

FWIW, this also happens to be the time where we are pretty financially secure with good careers and everything else in place.

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