Post # 1
My husband and I have been talking for the past few months about NTNT/just letting nature take its course, but we haven’t “pulled the trigger,” so to speak, and I’m wondering how everyone else decided – assuming you did decide and nature didn’t decide for you – although let me know how that turned out too, as that could always happen to us as well 😉 Apologies if this is already a post, I couldn’t find it.
We have names picked out and we talk about it often. We could handle it financially, although I probably couldn’t stay home with the baby at this point, which I’d really like to do (or maybe freelance or work part-time). We have a nice house and good, stable jobs. We both wants at least three kids (open minded to six, in fact, money permitting). I am 24 and he’s 28.
I’ve always wanted to be a mom and I love the idea of kids, but I’d like to hear other experiences both about making the decision to have a baby and actually HAVING the baby.
Post # 3
Yikes, we both “wants” at least three kids? I promise we have good degrees as well – in fact, mine is in English!
Post # 4
We set a deadline.
We both knew we wanted to have children “one day”, but we also wanted to spend time together as a married couple before starting NTNT… So we decided that we’d aim at having kids 2 years after the wedding, if we had traveled enough to our liking and if my job situation had gotten better (I had a stable job, but one I didn’t like, was waiting on a promotion..). We didn’t want to wait too much longer than that since I was 27 and he was 35 when we got married.
The day I signed my contract for my promotion was about 11 months before our 2 year anniversary, so we pulled off the trigger, and got pregnant on our second month trying. I am due 1 month before our 2 years deadline.
Post # 5
We had originally planned to wait about a year after getting marrried to start to TTC. However, about a month after we got married, DH became baby crazy 🙂 We started NTNT and got pregnant right away. However, I miscarried, because my lining was too thin more than likely since I hadn’t waited for it to thicken after stopping the use of bc. So basically DH decided and I agreed. Now we are in full TTC.
Post # 6
OP: We were originally going to wait a yr.. but then I thought about the that we want 2 maybe 3 and I do want to be pregnant in my mid 30s but still want to have time in between pregancies…. yea we started this last month… and got a bfp 2 days ago. lol
Post # 8
yay from me too 🙂
My FI just told me the other night that he wants to start trying when we visit for three weeks on he leave from army in October (he is keen on the idea of our child being conceived in Thailand) I am just not sure what to do as I think the wedding will be really hard to have since I will either be preggers at the time or it will be with a newborn. Plus I would have to find a new dress. Thats if I GET preggers of course 🙂
Post # 9
We decided that we were tired of me being on birthcontrol. I went out and purchased TCOYF, and originally planned on charting to avoid, but then decided that we were ready and would love to have a baby….and got pregnant the next month…..
That doesn’t seem so special once I have it all typed out…lol
Post # 10
I had actually really wanted to start ever since we got married. We had a talk at that time, and agreed we couldn’t ‘afford’ a baby. I thought it through for the next 6 months and every now and then would talk about how our window of affording a baby was opening up even though we weren’t reaching our original ‘afford a baby’ goals. He agreed.
Then I just waited for my annual doc appointment to talk with the doc first.
Post # 11
We originally decided to wait until after we’d been married a year. Almost made it, but then we ran out of condoms and I had the worst period ever, so we decided to just go for it. I think DH was tired of watching me sit curled up in a ball popping Midol.
This is our first official cycle of TTC.
Post # 12
We’d been talking about having a baby for a few months. Initiated by me and him hesitating. We went back and forth for a few months and both came to the conclusion that this was a good a time as any, on his birthday. I stopped taking BC the day after and got pregnant 5 months later.
Post # 13
Thanks ladies, this is really helpful! It’s nice to hear that each situation has its own specifics, but they all share a common thread too – a sense of, as @angela85: said, “this was as good a time as any.”
That’s the feeling we’re coming to as well, but we’ve both been comfortable letting the idea stew for a little bit before making any moves. Now I’m feeling more and more ready, though as I said, I still struggle with wanting to be able to stay home and I don’t know if I should wait until that point or not. That would probably be two more years at least, and I think I’ll be crazy at that point
Post # 14
We originally planned on waiting 1-2 years, but I was diagnosed with pretty severe PCOS and was given a “fertility deadline” of age 25/26, which means I have about 2 years to have the entire family that we want. After a lot of discussion over money, housing situation, jobs, etc, we decided to chart & try immediately (1 month after our wedding) for a year, and if we don’t have any luck by then, to seek further fertility assistance. We’re currently on Cycle 2.
Post # 15
We initially discussed it last summer, but because the economy had been so horrible and we’re in construction, we decided to wait until it looked like things might be turning around. Well, the new year came and went, we celebrated our 2 year anniversary, and the economy still sucks, so we finally just made the decision that we weren’t going to put our life on hold anymore. We are almost 28, have well-paying jobs and a house, so we figured we needed to get on it.
It was scary, but we decided to stop my BC after my SIL’s wedding in March, then wait 3 months for my body to regulate and we started trying this month.
Post # 16
We originally were not going to TTC until after I was done with law school and working as a lawyer (at the earliest 4-5 years).
When I decided to leave law school for an MBA program, one of the deciding factors was that we didn’t want to wait so long for children. We both have good careers and savings. We bought our home a year before our wedding and I am turning 28 and hubby will be 30. We don’t want to be older parents and FIL is turning 70 this year, and hubby is an only child; so we def want to give our parents grandbabies sooner than later too.
We decided that we want to 100% TTC by fall of 2012 (2 years of marriage)… and probably will NTNT by summer of 2012.