Post # 1
My FI is supposed to choose our honeymoon location, but he’s never been out of the country before and I can tell he’s completely overwhelmed by the possibilities and doesn’t know where to start. I’ve been to a number of different places, so it’s important to me that he gets to make the decision. How did you decide where to go? Talk to me about your thought process please 🙂
Post # 2
SilverWire: I was in the same boat. He had never been somewhere other than Mexico. He was nervous about being in an unknown. He really was pushing for Maui (where we got engaged) but I gently reminded him we only get 1 honeymoon as newlyweds… So, being non traditional- we each picked 2 places that we both agreed on… (Mexico, Dominican Republic, St. Lucia and Puerto Rico) Wrote them on a pieces of paper… Stuck them in a hat and picked.
We had an amazing time in the Dominican Republic. 🙂
Narrowing down where you go is the hard part… Once you guys nail that down, it gets so much easier.
Post # 3
we initially discussed saving money and just staying a week in NYC since we have already travelled extensively, but a few months before the wedding, he surprised me with a honeymoon to the Galapagos Islands! He booked everything himself 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN
DH’s cousin has a cabin up in the thumbprint of MI. He let us borrow it. We didn’t want to go on an expensive honeymoon because we figured we would rarely leave the bedroom (we were right. Lol). But we still want to go somewhere scenic. And let me tell you, we had a blast on our honeymoon. One of the days we were there we drove all around the thumbprint. It was gorgeous! We reached the northernmost part of MI. We went in the off season, so there wasn’t much to do. But it was great to drive and walk around and enjoy the view! And it was really cheap. Like I said, DH’s cousin let us use his cabin and right before we left our reception my Nana gave us a box of gift cards (restaurants, grocery stores, gas cards). Our honeymoon was practically free! And we still had gift cards left over when we got back. 🙂
Right now we’re planning on going on a cruise after the new year. We’re doing this now because we know we will actually take the time to enjoy the view more than once. 😉
Post # 5
We’re going to London. My fiance suggested it because he knows I’ve wanted to go there since I was a little girl. Tickets are booked and we’re very excited 🙂
Post # 6
I have always dreamed of a Hawaii honeymoon, I kind of love the stereotypical aspect of it. Plus, it had the perfect balance of R&R but lots of cultural and nature activities, because we are not people who just lay on beaches! It’s also new and exotic and far-away for us that it has that “once-in-a-lifetime” feel, I didn’t want to go anywhere that I felt I could easily go to on a future vacation.
Post # 7
DH let me pick our honeymoon spot, but we both wanted to go someplace reasonably priced, as well as somewhere where we’re not on a flight for hours.
I had put a lot of research into checking out some Sandals resorts, but everything was so expensive… even for just 5 nights. So, we met with a AAA agent the Monday after we got married and she gave us some information on different locations we had in mind – Bahamas, St. Lucia, and the Dominican Republic. She said that in February (when we want to go), the Bahamas aren’t as warm as some other places. St. Lucia is very pretty, but spendy and the flights to get there are not ideal (lots of connecting flights, and an overnight stay)… so that narrowed it down to the Dominican (which allowed a direct flight there and back). She gave us a few hotel options that she had great reviews from other clients, so we took that information home and decided from there.
I can definitely say that it’s overwhelming… no matter where you go. The hotel options alone are a lot to take in, so I read up on a lot of Trip Advisor reviews before we settled on one of the all-inclusive resorts.
We’re booked to go to the DR for 7 nights in February at the Majestic Elegance. I am super excited!!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2015 - The Fairmont, SF
We decided to go where neither of us have been before. My family was huge on international vacations and my FI spent 2 years travelling the world in his 20s. That didn’t leave a lot of room for choice and it definitely knocked out the traditional European cities. Neither of us can stand sitting still on a beach so we axed all tropical destinations and narrowed it down to a pretty short list!
Also, I might have said, “I want to go to Japan. And while we’re there, let’s see Viet Nam and Korea.”
He might have said, “Yeah, okay.” So excited!
Post # 9
Neither of us have ever left the continent and we’d always talked about our first big trip being Asia so it just made sense. We chose Thailand because we wanted the “beachy resort” feel to keep it relaxing moreso than adventerous.
Post # 10
We first narrowed it down by what the weather would be like just after our wedding date other places in the world. Ours is at the end of May, so I didn’t want to bother with anywhere tropical (though if it was the winter that would have been the top choice). At the same time it is not the dead heat of summer yet, so we thought somewhere in the Mediterranean might be nice because it won’t be overly hot for us like it would in July or August.
Then we narrowed it down by how much effort we thought we could put into something right after our wedding. Originally we talked about doing a road trip through Spain, but it would take too much planning- we’re going to be burnt out after the wedding and totally tired of planning. So we picked a cruise, where we don’t have to plan almost anything, and we don’t have to drag our bags around and arrange our own travel to each city (I think this is why a lot of people choose all-inclusive places for a honeymoon). We’ll get on and relax.
Post # 11
We picked somewhere we could pay almost exclusively with airline miles and credit card points. We travel a good amount – have been all over the Caribbean, been to Europe several times, etc so for us, it was mostly about finding a good spot that we wouldn’t pay a lot out of pocket. We considered the beaches in Europe, but at the time of year we will be going, it won’t really be beach weather there. We decided on a tour of 3 Hawaiin islands. We’ve already been to Maui, and it was absolutely my favorite vacation spot. He was a little skeptical since we have already been to Hawaii, but being able to island hop convinced him. We are using points for flights and hotels, and will only spend money on excursions and we are going to do air bnb for a few nights to get more of a local experience.
Post # 12
FI more or less let me pick it, assuming I would not pick someplace I knew he would not like to go to. He is an anxious travelor , he gets stressed out & kinda spazzy when faced with the unknowns of travel. So I picked a place that I knew quite well to start with so i could easily lead the way & he could acclimate. Then we moved on to other cities neither of us had been to. It worked out great.
I looked for a combination of scenic, relaxation, city, culture, history & food. No adventure/sport because that is not us.
Post # 13
mrscash: Where in Hawaii did you go for your Honeymoon? My FI and I have finally agreed on Hawaii but we are having trouble narrowing down an island!
Post # 14
randee95: We couldn’t pick one either, so we didn’t! Like many others, we went on the island-hopping route: 7 days at our own VRBO beach house on Big Island in Kona (the main R&R part, with some scuba and visits to the volcano and other national parks), 4 days in a b&b in the Maui Upcountry (easier to do the Haleakala sunrise, Road to Hana, away from the crowds), and 3 days in Oahu on Waikiki Beach in a 3.5 star hotel. The airplane rides between were super quick and easy and even though I have airplane anxiety, it was actually quite relaxing and we’ve talked about how Hawaiian Airlines is the best airline we’ve ever been on. They give you little juice boxes and sometimes narrate what you’re seeing!
With Hawaii I think it can really depend on your style – how much cultural/natural/relaxing you want to do. It’s impossible to see it all there in one trip and I know in the future we want to return to Kauai. I also wish we had more time on Oahu, especially to see the Northern Shore.
Only warning: they’re all touristey, and none of them are cheap!
Post # 15
SilverWire: Our budget has dictated our honeymoon plans. Since we’re paying for the wedding ourselves, (on top of the fact that FI is a student, so we’re living off just my income at the moment, and we’re going to be buying a house in the next few months) we decided to honeymoon close to home and pick somewhere within driving distance (Nashville is currently our top pick).
That said, FMIL called last night and mentioned that a close friend of hers has a condo in Florida that she has offered to let us stay in for a week. If we run the costs and find that a longer distance without lodging costs is comparable to a shorter distance + a hotel, we may end up with a beachside honeymoon after all!