Post # 1
My Fiance and I were originally planning to do something very simple due to budget issues. We were lucky enough to have his Grandmother offer us a week of her timeshare which allows you to choose an affiliate location pretty much any where in the world. We were beyond grateful and still are…but to be honest, the fact that we now have a choice of honeymoon destinations, it seems like every time we talk about it, we end up arguing. Which seems so silly to be because it’s supposed to be exciting!
I suggested each of us choosing a few locations, then writing them on paper, putting them in a hat and choosing one. He didn’t like that idea.
Oddly enough, we both agree on what we want our honeymoon to be like, relaxing & romantic…but the location is just the issue.
So now come to you dear bees….how did you determine where to go on your honeymoon?
Post # 3
A relative of our said, “Would you like a honeymoon cruise for your wedding present?” And we, said “Yes, please!” They found a cruise within the budget they were thinking, they ran it by us and it was a go. 🙂
Post # 4
We both thought about it separately and ended up coming to the same idea! We wanted to go to a country that we had either already been to before or where English was the main language as DH isn’t bilingual but we also wanted to go somewhere amazing that we had never been to before. So we chose to go to Australia and stayed in Cairns so we could snorkel on the Great Barrier Reef. It was phenomenal.
Post # 5
We also agreed what we wanted it to be like, beachy and relaxing. Then I said, “You plan it, b/c I already have enough going on with the wedding.”
He looked at a few options, and decided cruise. I have a feeling his fear of flying was strongly influenced by that. I’m usually not much of a cruise girl, but I didn’t want him to have to be all stressed out about flying on our honeymoon, and I figured it really was a good chance to not have to think about anything and relax. Plus, I don’t work and he hasn’t had a vacation in years, so I wanted him to be happy.
Post # 6
We chose a once in a lifetime place. I studied abroad in Australia and while being so close to Fiji I never got to go. So when we got engaged I knew where I wanted to go on our honeymoon and FI agreed. We went into a little bit of debt (but paid it off with wedding money) to go on our honeymoon. I know that the odds of us every spending that kind of money and taking to weeks off from work to travel across the world would be pretty slim if we didn’t do it now.
Post # 7
We haven’t decided where we want to go yet, but our thought process is to go somewhere we’d NEVER go otherwise. We’ve both travelled all over Europe and his father lives in London, so we’ll have plenty of opportunity to go to Europe.
We’re thinking somewhere exotic like Bali, Fiji, or Thailand.
Post # 8
@roxy821:Yay! I’m half Fijian and it always makes me smile when I hear about people going there. Have you been already? How did you find it?
Post # 9
Why does it end in argument? Where does he want to go vs. you? Is there a compromise? Are you each tied to a particular locale for some reason?
Post # 10
Oh! I’m a travel ADDICT! I mean, I get at least 2 emails a day on vacation deals and airfare alerts (sometimes 5-10 a day…) and that was BEFORE I was engaged! Picking a honeymoon location is HARD!
Here’s our process: 1) How long of a plane ride are we willing to have? 2) How much are we willing to pay for airfare? — these two cut out Asia and off-the-beaten-path locations. 3) Are we staying in one hotel/city the WHOLE time or traveling around? 4) Do we want warm temps or will we be okay with a little chill? — these will help narrow down a hemisphere and determine if an island is in your future or if you want somewhere a little larger or if a cruise is more your style. 5) Are there any weather issues we need to be aware of that might interfere with our trip? — I.E. the Caribbean can be hit pretty hard by hurricane in Sept. and Oct. still, but there are a few islands that typically escape that mess. 6) Do we want adventure and activities or relaxation and romance? — It sounds like you decided this one! 7) Do we want to explore the area quite a bit or do we care if we ever leave the hotel? — If you want to explore, an all inclusive resort might not be the best option!
You should have a better idea after you answer those questions! Once you narrow it down a bit, start looking at http://www.Travelzoo.com and http://www.Europeandestinations.com for great deals! http://www.farecompare.com has some good tools for researching flight prices (check out their twitter flight alerts! you can browse prices by global region!).
We still haven’t decided about our honeymoon, but we’re *mostly* thinking Barbados. It’s just going to be a struggle to stay in one place for a week! We’re used to changing cities every one or two days! Plus, we’ve been on two epic vacations in the last year (Australia & New Zealand in ’09 and Paris, Prague and Budapest ’10…and I went on a music cruise in ’08 with friends..woo travel!)
Post # 11
@roxy821 and @KatNYC2011
We also were thinking Fiji or someplace that we normally would never have the funds to go to. But then we started talking about the flight there & how we only really have a week and whether the time flying there would cut into our time relaxing…I don’t know…this is where we start bickering back and forth. hahaha
I know it will all work out, thank you for your insight bees!
Post # 12
@CorgiTales I think we both just get so frustrated. I love to travel and we would have loved Europe…however, a trip to Europe would be anything but relaxing because there are so many amazing things to see! So we both thought something tropical and warm (it will be fall in the midwest and starting to get chilly) would be nice.
I feel like I’ve tried to be very open about places because I love to travel and I’d like to think that I’d enjoy anywhere. That being said, I think he feels like I’ve already made up my mind on where to go. But I’ve tried to tell him repeatedly that I haven’t, I was simply trying to share all the info I’ve researched. He hasn’t had as much opportunity to research because he isn’t stuck behind a computer at work all day like i am.
We still want to be as cost effective as possible, even though our lodging would be taken care of. Based on what we had discussed (albeit not too in depth) I thought that Mexico would be a good option because of what you get for your money down there. My fiance’s family members have more than once expressed their thought that Mexico would be an unsafe place to go. I am originally from California, have been to Mexico many times and have friends who just went earlier this year and had an incredible time.
Like I said, I’m not set on any location…it’s just when I research different places and get excited about them, then share stuff with him, he thinks I’ve already made up my mind or something.
It’s really silly and not a big deal, it doesn’t result in a huge fight, more like bickering back and forth.
@staceynrick – thanks for the ideas…I hope they’ll help!
Post # 13
@KatNYC2011 Thailand is amazing!! My FIs sister teaches abroad there. I will warn you though it is a very long plane ride and they are 12 hours ahead of the US. So you may want to go for 2 weeks if at all possible. But they have the best beaches around!
Post # 14
We printed off a map of the US and tossed a dart at it behind our backs. Then since it hit such a broad area, we printed out the state or area and cut it up and drew one: Kentucky.
And then we went ahead and just chose New York 😉
Actually I wasn’t allowed a lot of time off to do what we wanted to do for Kentucky but maybe we’ll be able to do it next time.
Post # 15
We wanted to go somewhere neither of us had been, somewhere we could relax (mostly) and do stuff (some of the time) that would be a pretty simple flight – one stopover maximum.
We wound up going to Barbados for one week and Palm Island in the Grenadines for a week. I highly recommend both!!!
Good luck choosing!
Post # 16
@soon2bmrsvoorhees: I’m no stranger to long plane rides, have gone to India twice from NYC on business. 18 hours non-stop or 24+ hours with a layover.
We’d definately try and take 10 days – 2 weeks for our honeymoon. Thailand just seems like such a cool place. To have both the relaxing beach resort experience and the cultural/tourist experience.
I know my grandparents went there a LONG time ago (my grandmother is now 94) and they loved it.