Post # 1
The reason I’m asking is because I’ve been engaged for a year now and that equals a lot of time to look at every wedding thing there is! lol! Initially I wanted a dress with a full skirt (pockets), then I fell in love with Maggie’s Divina dress, then I started looking into a 50’s style tea length dress, then the 1920’s art deco theme (FI likes the mobsters and the 20’s stuff) and now I just have no idea. I’ve tried dresses on before a hand full of times and I like some of them but I just can’t commit to anything b/c I have no idea what look I wanna go for!!! On top of all that, I’m not exactly happy with the way I look and I can’t get past that a lot of the time when trying dresses on. We are getting married next year so its getting to the point to where I need to order a dress in the next 4 or 5 months. I also thought that knowing we were going to have it at my parent’s farm would help with my theme but its literally a blank canvas and I could go as formal or as casual as I want. I’m just soooooo lost now. boo! lol
Post # 2
I think people these days thanks to pintrest are overworrying about themes. I got married last month and I didnt really have a theme per say, it was just blush/cream colours, soft and romantic 🙂 I even bought my dress before I decided on the ‘theme’ at all (it was a ballgown, princess/royal style dress). Dont stress too much, just go with whatever colours/style you like best.
Post # 3
When people have asked me what my theme is I just say ‘errr…. getting married?'<br /><br />Haha. I’m all for simplicity, can’t be dealing with extra fuss and faff. I’m just going with stuff I like (and Fi likes too, not all about me.) Wedding is in April, colours have naturally graduated to blue and yellow as we both like blue and are having daffodils in memory of my grandfather. Dress is along the lines of what I had always had in mind and I love it (Maggie Sottero Emma).
Post # 4
I started pinning way before I was engaged. I pinned and pinned and after a while I spotted a theme and recurring colors. For me, Tuscany in Italy is a great inspiration and while we don’t have to a destination wedding, I do feel we can incorporate the feel of it. So we’re going with lavender and olive green. And since we’re both foodies this is fitting too and I will add herbs to my bouquet and lavender in my hair. The dress style will be romantic with hopefully lace and a Keyhole. We will still have to choose a venue but keep this idea in mind. I think that will fit the theme pretty well so it all comes together.
My tip to you would be to start pinning the things you already know you will have and then things you like. From dresses to decoration to basically anything else you can think of. Also realize it’s not necessary to have a real theme. Some simple colors can also do the trick. Your venue and dress will be the biggest determiners for the feel and vibe of the wedding so once you know those, take it from there.
Post # 5
SkinnyLatte17: My method: A combo of what I love that was a reflection of Darling Husband and my taste, and what worked with the venue (which incidentally was also, and I think for most is, a reflection of who we are and what we love). I am a big fan of simply deciding what you guys are all about and picking a venue, and then deciding what to wear that works with both. It was pretty straightforward for me/us.
Since you feel as though your venue doesn’t help, although I had mine on a Victorian ranch/farm so I feel they def have a “feel” (or at least things that def don’t work), I would say do this: (1) pick 2-3 colors and (2) pick 2-3 words that describe your guys’ aesthetic as a couple, and that will do the trick. No need to have a “prom” theme, just start with colors you both love and pull some adjectives and make a list of 2-3 you both feel describe y’all, and then you can go from there. (Even image googling those words and colors will get you started on a bridal look).
Post # 6
I was in the same boat as you! Pinning was a good way for me to find my colors, because there was a definite color pattern there, but I wasn’t as cohesive when it came to theme. Ultimately, I ended up with a theme when I found my dress. My dress is a heavily beaded vintage/deco looking get-up which went perfect with the colors I liked- navy and metallics with blush accents. Romantic, deco/vintage.. if that’s a thing? Good luck though, I know how stressful being wishy-washy can be. 🙂
Post # 7
I didn’t have a “theme,” but I wanted a 50s looking short wedding dress and that’s wewhat I got!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! I really appreciated it! My biggest fear is regret lol! Regretting picking the wrong Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, wrong feel, wrong wedding gown. lol! I just can’t commit for anything! I think though my wedding dress will be the deciding factor. Once I get that nailed down I’ll be able to build our look around that.
Post # 9
Our colors and look were inspired by our venue. We are getting in a historical theater with a modern ballroom that features a gorgeous red chihuly scuplture hanging from the ceiling. It’s inspired me to really embrace the color and wildness of the blown glass. Flowers will be hand tied, and natural with bright reds, redish oranges, deep purples, pinks and peaches and lots of greens. Brides maids dresses will be silvery grey and there will be lots of candles.
Post # 10
Stop worrying about a theme. Instead, find a color or two or three or four that you like, that works well together, and that you can use as a spring board. Sometimes most “themes” come from the colors selected. Once you have an idea of the colors, you can start thinking about the other details like the centerpieces, the bridesmaids dresses, what the groom will wear, etc. Once you have an idea of how formal/casual you want it, you will be able to make the other decisions. For me, once I chose what colors I wanted, the “vision” I had for my wedding seemed to come together, fully formed. Everything else has fallen into place. Take it from me, sometimes a theme can be more restrictive and annoying than anything. It’s okay if your wedding isn’t themed. Don’t get hung up on that. Find a vibe or a feel that you like through the colors and go with that. Plus, if you choose to go “themeless” you can change your mind as often as you like. For me, we are having a modge podge of ideas, but the loose term I use is “whimsical tea party” and I’ve bene collecting tea pots and mismatched china to go along with that–with twenty tea pots purchased and over sixty dinner plates purchased–it’s too late to change my mind even if I wanted to.
Post # 11
Search “vintage rustic wedding” on pinterest and see if that the sort of thing you like. Sounds like you want a vintage style dress and your venue is rustic, so it seems natural. You don’t have to have a specific theme or build it around a certain decade–just go with what you like. Pick the dress you feel most beautiful in, then pick your favorite flowers for the bouquet. Pull some colors from the venue and the flowers to make a color scheme…and most of all, have fun with it! Wedding planning should be fun and not stressful.
Post # 12
My “theme” is bohemian, colorful, and fun. Which basically means, I have no theme! Every aspect is free and unique, all things we picked! We picked what flowers we liked, I’m wearing a boho long sleeved dress with converses because I love them, and changing into a glitzy Gatsby like dress for the reception. I couldn’t be happier. My advice is to just find things you like and blend them together. That’s what makes your wedding beautiful is it being true to yourselves! I’m a fan of an unlimited color palette!
Post # 13
We landed on our “theme” (really just an overall aesthetic for the event) because it was the overlap of looks that my fiance and I both liked; we are going for an Art Deco influence. Less Gatsby, more 1930’s glamour/ Old Hollywood/ architectural details and bold lines. We got to colors the same way; colors we both liked and thought would be wedding appropriate. That being said, while we are using this to guide our decisions, we aren’t going for a hard and fast theme in the literal sense; I want it to feel like a wedding, not a costume party! Just look at blogs and Pinterest for inspiration with your fiance, and pin things you both like. I bet that eventually you guys will find a common thread. I have found it helpful when using Pinterest to go through and edit my boards, too; if you don’t like something you pinned as well as the things next to it, delete it!
Post # 14
SkinnyLatte17: I agree with PP. Since when did a wedding need a “theme”? Or at least, a declared one?
I suppose we ended up with the autumnal/rustic theme on accident. We knew we wanted the fall, we love that time of year and the colors. We also wanted a barn as opposed to a wedding hall (they can be very gaudy where we live!). I knew I didn’t need a dress that “matched” these things, but I preferred vintage lace from day one. So, I guess you’d say it was accidental.
The only thing I’m having trouble incorporating now is my heritage. It would be out of place to send out invitations with a Celtic theme or to have a cake with Celtic knotwork on it. Oh well!
Post # 15
SkinnyLatte17: Also, the time of year you choose will drive you in the right direction!