Post # 1
…because right now I am feeling S T R E S S E D and fairly miserable thanks to my crazy controlling family..Though I love FI! (okay, sometimes anoys me, but right now I am INSANE, so I love him for tolerating it!)
Is this normal? Is any bride over the moon and ecstatic? My dad just insinuated there is something wrong with me or my marriage bc I was on the verge of tears at the end of our “family mtg” where we started and finished seating arrangements and last few to-do’s. Naturally, my parents are going on a mini vacation the weekend before the wedding, they leave tomorrow… Naturally, I still need a lot of information from them. Oh and deposits that they promised. Ugh.
For the record: Not all poll items reflect my feelings, for better or worse
Post # 3
@HourThyme: Not married yet so can’t give advice on this but, damn, your parents are going on a vacation a week before the wedding?? That’s kinda messed up, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. Where are they going and why does it have to be now?
Hope you have others around to help with crazy last minute things that so many friends have already warned me about. The last month seems to be the most hectic. I can only imagine the last week to ten days!
Post # 4
My dad has a business meeting so they decided to extend it into a vacation. they leave at the crack of dawn friday and are thinking of coming back sunday or monday. They just decided this today… ugh.
Unfortunately my bridal party is scattered everywhere…. Two are in a different state, 1 is in a different country. Of these, one is a 12 (jr bm) so not much help anyway… I have one bridesmaid here and a man of honor aaand will likely call in and ask for help with some diy this weekend.
This is so messed up.
Im so stressed.
Post # 5
i feel you! Super stressed here too!
Post # 6
I honestly felt normal. I didnt feel a little stressed until about 5-6 days before.
Post # 7
I hear ya 100 % !!!
– I can’t sleep either, except when Im supposed to be doing things, then Im exhausted!
– I am very into details too, very into them with all my excel spreadsheets and it boggles my mind when I see my mom giving me or taking notes on a handwritten sheet or when I send my dad an excel worksheet and he copies and pastes and enters new data all over it.. grrr..
– also, totally understand child frustration! wtf people? I love kids, but not at my wedding. I just gave up, yes, everyone bring your child! Our child-free wedding now has a children’s table, and a tween/teen table. Let’s just rename this place chuck-e-cheese!
– your MOH is completely out of line! Completeyl! does the dress even look the same?!!?! I was terrified of ruining my BM dress during alterations for a wedding 2 weeks ago and dieted like crazy for it (unlike for my own wedding. What did I have for dinner today you ask? Nachos. And yesterday, Nachos and pizza. Ugh! Note: my dress is also snug.
– Flowers: Thank goodness you DID order them! Our flowers are ordered (that was done by our florist today bc she has screwed up a ton) but we are deciding between 2 arrangements.
And I think one of the biggest stressors for me is waiting for others. It’s like cmon people! Give my your tiny piece of info so I can enter it into my large data sheet and submit it and get it off my list!!!!!
Post # 8
What were your major supports?
Post # 9
@HourThyme: eff. I somehow deleted my previous post!
i don’t think the dress she chose looks like the previous dress at all! I stewed about it for a day and then just said eff it. Whatever. I have no idea why she chose to do that! Even worse, she wasn’t planning on telling me at all! I would have been pissed to find out like that on the wedding day!!
keep truckin girl!! I’ll make sure to check in with you next Sunday to see how great you feel! FREEDOMMMMM!!! 🙂
Post # 10
@misschickpea: hahahahaha “freeedom” is right! I’m staying at the hotel through monday, but definitely see a lot of posting and recaps happening on tues! Hope your day goes wondefully!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 11
Really? Really? most bees feel “in contro”
What am I doing wrong 🙁
I am mostly in control, I have just 2 pages (double spaced) left on my very comprehensive to-do list, down from 20 pages at first, courtesy of my wedding planner, but still, dont feel very controlly
Post # 12
@HourThyme: DH and I were great, family was great, I was just really anxious. Irritable but not with anyone, just generally stressed and worrying about everything I could find to worry about. Wishing I’d eloped, yes!!! I kept saying “why did we do this again, we could have just been alone on a beach somehwere…” and he kept telling me it would all be worth it after, and it was.
10 days prior I was also battling jet lag though so that helped to mute everything I was feeling in a haze of general sleepiness and confusion… but definitely kind of dreading it and regretting that we were doing it at all.
But if it makes you feel any better I didn’t feel in control at all. The moments when I did feel good, it wasn’t “in control” it was “giving up trying to be in control and just letting whatever happens, happen”
Edited to add also: The nice thing about being a panic-stricken dreading person is that you will never be that woman who gets post wedding depression because she desperately wishes she could go back and do it again. At least if you’re anything like me. I felt hazy and weird after, but the biggest feeling afterward was OMG THANK GOD THAT IS OVER. IT WAS GREAT BUT THANK GOD IT’S OVER AND I NEVER HAVE TO DO IT AGAIN. (Months later I still feel that way… I still get this little gleeful jolt like “hehehehe I survived that and I never have to do it again.”)
Post # 13
I am getting married this Sunday! I’m ecstatic! But maybe it is because we are choosing to elope. If we had gone the traditional route I’d probably be stressed out! Bless your heart for putting up with the crazies. It is something I did not have the capacity to do.
Post # 14
I was the most stressed I’ve been in a long time. *hugs*
Post # 15
@HourThyme: I am into planning so I had everything done for the most part. When it was close to the wedding I had a lot of help. My mom, dad, FI, and 6 bridesmaids all offered help (nobody had to do much if anything at all). I just got a little nervous as the day got closer.
Post # 16
I was only stressed about issues that the inlaws were causing…but honestly, I decided that I’d make the best of it, gave my plans to my coordinator, and cut them out of the planning at that point. It made things easier. DH was awesome during the whole process, and my girls (for the most part) were a dream!