How did you feel about it being just you two?

posted 2 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We got married last Thursday at the courthouse – just us, two witnesses (out of town friends who just happened to be in town on the day of or wedding), and the court commissioner. There was no drama, it was intimate and private. Our witnesses took tons of pics, which we then shared with our families afterward. It was perfect. I have to mention, however, there was some drama with one of my sisters prior to our wedding. She was upset with us that she wasn’t invited. When I explained to her that we weren’t having a wedding in the traditional sense and that we wanted it just the two of us, she softened up a bit. Otherwise, everyone else was very supportive and understanding of our decision.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I could never in a million get married with out my parents there- If I were you I would do a UK courthouse legal marraige with parents as witnesses then go to dinner with them. Next day fly away for the emotional/spiritual ceremony at dream destination with your hubs.

But of course, I am not you so do as you please. But if there is a little sad voice in your head about your parents you should listen to it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Our wedding is in Nassau on December 24 and originally we planned just for the two of us. MY FI had a few guy friends who were pretty insistent on going (one going so far as to say he was just going to show up even though he wasn’t invited) but finally they respected our wishes. As time has progressed, we decided to invite our immediate family. My Mom and Aunt are coming (my Dad passed away in 2011) and my brother is still deciding. His parent’s are not able to make it due to illnesses in the family. So now it is the four of us. We aren’t opening it up to friends. I am very happy that my Mom and Aunt can be there and I know it means a lot to them. But had they not been able to come we would have been perfectly okay with just the two of us.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  blue996.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Hubby and I got married at the courthouse, just us and our daughter, and we have no regrets.  It was our time to focus on us as a family, and we got that with a simple courthouse wedding.  We didnt spend any money except to pay the judge, but it was a much simpler and cheaper wedding than some people have.

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

UKbee:  Thank you! 🙂

We are very private and the thought of having all those people around us was very overwhelming to both of us. Really though, what it comes down to is that this is your and your FI’s day to celebrate and embrace the love between you two. How you choose to go about it is your decision 🙂

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We got married just the two of us, and I loved it. I do love my family, but they weren’t there on our first date, our first night living together, the night we got engaged, etc. Being just the two of us made it more meaningful to me, and I got to see my husband tear up through his vows which would not have happened in public. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

 

UKbee:  We are doing the same thing going on a trip and getting married while we are there. So bascially a honeymoon with a wedding lol. To me I wanted our wedding to be a celebration of the two to us getting married not so much a party about everyone else so we are going to have just us. We have explained our desire for this to our families and they are happy we are having the wedding we want.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

 

nikkipants:  I totally feel the same way, we both do not enjoy large crowds or being the center of attention. To me a wedding should be an intimate event 🙂

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I just got back from my planned elopement/honeymoon.  it was just me and him.  Like you, we had originally invited my parents, siblings/wives and best friends. Two days later we retracted the invite.  I do not regret it one bit.  i put together our entire ceremony script.  We wrote our own vows, it was so freakin romantic I could cry right now thinking about it.  In the moments walking down the aisle (alone) and then seeing him…nothing else mattered…time went too quiCk. It was some of the best moments of my life.  

we went back to the room and called our parents and sent them a few quick pics through email.  I think that if you feel like you will be regretting it, could you have the ceremony live streamed? Or possibly get a videographer so you can watch it with them when you come home?

UKbee:  

Post # 13
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Wannabee

Hi UKBee, have you double checked the cost of a registry service? I’m not sure which bit you’re in but we need to get it done over here before we have a symbolic ceremony in Mexico and it’ll cost us about £150 altogether. Normally your civic centre should have a few options. The £150 includes out intent to wed which is something like £35 each. 

It’s up to you though. As I mentioned, we are doing the legal bit in the UK before we fly, but I’m only referring to it as the legal bit! We’ll have a couple friends as our witnesses, but we aren’t having family to that either. I want the ceremony in Mexico to be our wedding so it wouldn’t feel right having them there to the other bit. It’ll just be the two of us there for what I consider our real wedding. Sometimes I wonder if I’ll regret not having my family there down the line (I’m very close to my family) but at the same time, the more I think about it, the more right it seems that it’s just me and him. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

After just having our traditional wedding(though relatively small and much cheaper than most), I could see why gals would like to elope and save the stress and planning! That being said, I really could not imagine missing the experience of saying our vows in front of our closest family and friends. I think I would be most upset at my mom and sisters not being able to share our big day with us, because I am so close with them. I agree that the ceremony should be private and intimate, but there was something special about having their support and excitement for my DH and I through it all. I agree with maybe having it streamed, or getting a videographer! That might help it be the best of both worlds. 🙂 Or you could have a vow-renewal or reception at home with them afterwards where you share the videos and pictures! It’s a personal decision, and just do whatever is right for the two of you!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

UKbee:  You could go the registrar’s for a small fee with only closest family in attendance and then go to a restaurant.

You could arrange a ‘Blessing’ before or after you get back and go to a restaurant. Maybe wear your white gown again?

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