Post # 1
I’m curious about how others feel after their weddings, particularly if you didn’t have your honeymoon until weeks or months after your wedding. It’s been such a whirlwind and I got a cold right after the wedding and DH was mildly sick during the wedding. We aren’t having our Europe honeymoon until May and now I’m home sick and DH is back at work. All my family is gone. I can’t help but feel a little sad that it’s all over, despite how stressful the planning was. We’re going to do a fun day trip in the city this weekend to kind of reconnect after all the insanity and we’re feeling better. What did you married bees do who were in a similar boat?
Post # 3
Sorry to hear you feel that way. We just had a short gap (ten days) before our honeymoon but enjoyed having time to pack, have a breather and see guest photos. I’d be lying if I said I felt like you did, but I don’t think it will help to hear about people feeling better, somehow.
A couple of things we did that might be worth it for you: 1. sit down and talk through all your favourite memories of the day and 2. we had a little homecoming party with some friends who were all at the wedding – nothing major, we just ate pizza and talked about the day, but maybe you could do that?
Post # 4
@Moomin: Thanks! I feel better already. Also, we’re having a post wedding house party to help drink the leftover alcohol 🙂
Post # 5
I was definitely bummed when it was all over, but that was mainly to finding out that DH’s parents were complaining about not getting enough attention during the wedding. It was too bad because their behavoir almost ruined (after the fact) what was such a beautiful weekend. Well, they didn’t ruin it but they certainly left a bad taste in our mouths.
Yes! Go on a trip, go out on dates, and don’t stop celebrating in little ways! That helped us!
Post # 6
Been home from our honeymoon for a week. I was SUPER sick all last weekend so it was pretty miserable – no more wedding to look forward to, returned from a beautiful destination to crappy weather, and I felt awful on top of it. But it’s getting better. We’ve already scheduled a few trips to visit family and friends before the end of the year, and I just realized that we have 3 out-of-town weddings to go to in the next few months, so we’ve been busy making plans for those. Getting the house in order has been a top priority too. I didn’t realize how much free time I would have once I wasn’t planning anymore!
Post # 7
We had our honeymoon pretty much right after the wedding (waited one whole day) and when we got back, I have to admit I felt great! My mom picked us up from the airport and when we got home we found out that my mom came to our house and cleaned it up for us…even did our laundry! What a homecoming! Even better, my photographer had texted me and said that our pictures were ready to view so we got to sit down and look through all the photos and talk about the wedding.
I have to say that I’m really glad that we went on out honeymoon after the wedding (we orginially were going to wait, but were encouraged by my co-workers not to). We also went to Disney World so all throughout our trip we were having people all over the parks telling us congratulations all thoughout the week so it was nice to still be reminded that we are newly weds.
I agree with the PP that you should sit back and reflect with your new husband!!! about your favorite parts of the wedding, what you were thinking before during and after, and all that jazz. Coming on here and posting a recap I feel def helped me from getting those post-wedding blues.
Post # 8
My feet felt great!
I initially had champagne coloured heels for the garden ceremony (yip that’s right, my heels kept getting stuck in the gross and slipping out) and then changed into gold pumps for the reception, totally worth it! We were gifted a honeymoon, so waited a day to pack our things and got ready and then we were on our way!
I must say, God’s favour has been on our lives as there weren’t any funds left for a honeymoon to begin with and we were GIFTED so THank GOD!
I’m still waiting on that call from the photographer though, so waiting in anticipation! Can’t wait to view that video so i could ‘relive’ that day!
Post # 9
I think it is not at all uncommon for brides to have wedding withdrawal. I’m just glad we did it, we did it our way, and it’s over! Time to live life now!
Post # 10
We are wedding date twins! Not only that , but hubby and I can’t take a honeymoon for a while too. We actually had to return to our parents house’s for a while because I’m in-between rotations in med school. I completely understand how you feel. Hubby and I are going to his family vacation home for the weekend to reconnect.
Post # 11
@sept22insf: You described exactly how I feel!! AND I got sick right after too! Wedding was last weekend and today is the first day I haven’t been a snotty, stuffy mess!
I was sad when all our friends and family started leaving on Sunday – but we have had lots of down time (thanks to being sick). We aren’t going on our honeymoon until next year either – so it’s just life . . . back to normal – with a messy apartment
We’re sad that it’s over. But still riding the high of the love we felt in that room on Saturday and filled with wonderful memories from our very special and perfect day!
Post # 12
@sept22insf: Date twin here, and I definitely sympathize. We live 5,000 miles away from our family and friends and had our wedding back where they all are. It went AMAZING but I didn’t get as much time as I thought to spend with people catching up, and now we’re back where we live, where I have no friends at all. I’m overwhelmed with work (I was so unproductive in the month leading up to the wedding that I am behind), I am sad it will be a long time before I see many people again, and I don’t know what to do with my free time with no wedding planning. I just keep looking at wedding photos and feeling so many emotions: both soo happy with how everything turned out, and remembering how amazing it was, a little sad that I will never have a wedding again and it’s all over and went by so quickly, and also dwelling on TINY, TINY things that went wrong (I’m not getting too upset or angry over them, but just keep thinking about them). I’m a little jealous of people who are still planning weddings or have that yet to come (a few people close to me will likely get engaged soon). For me, wedding planning was a blast and a really enjoyable part of my life so far.
To get over some of this feeling, I’m trying to have things to look forward to. We are nowhere near buying a house or having kids, but I’m planning a trip for next year, thinking of fun holiday things to do and decorations for the house. And there’s always wedding photos/albums to look forward to, and thank-you cards to make/write 🙂
I think it’s pretty normal to feel this way and I’m sure we’ll all find other things in our life to fill our time and thoughts.
Post # 13
We left to our mini moon two days after the wedding and I’m so glad we did. We really needed time to relax and enjoy time as husband and wife without having wedding planning in the back of our minds. BUT once we got back, went to work I did and still have some post wedding blues. Not alot but I have a lot of extra time now.I actually wonder what other married ladies are doing now because I hear of others TTC to moving into a new house which is not the case for me. I’m still trying to find new hobbies for myself to keep me entertained. But for now we’re happily enjoying the married life 🙂
Post # 14
I was relieved! No more stress no more craziness. Im so glad we eloped when we did.
Post # 15
Ya, we did our honeymoon right after the wedding and I think it was the best decision. We did wwait one day to leave, but we spend it in the hotel, and when we came back a week later we have our living room filled with gifts for us to open!!! So that was fun. We were ahppy to be home after our trip and it was nice.
It was a little sad that the wedding was over and there was no more planning to do. But we did, as others have suggested.. talking over the wedding, our favorite parts, what went really well etc… Also then I had our photos to look forward to, writing thanks you cards, and then making our photo book and I’m still 7 months later doing wedding related rpjects – a shadow box, a book of wedding cards…
Post # 16
I was relieved that I didn’t have to think about it anymore and stress about it.
I was also kinda sad it was all over. It was so much fun seeing everyone and having the rehearsal dinner and morning after brunch etc. it was awesome to see the family and friends that I don’t get to see much.